tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44605541435462910382024-02-19T07:20:14.748-05:00Practical Purity for Christian Young LadiesThis blog will give practical advice and tips to Christian young ladies striving for purity in ChristJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-58999161040190646192016-05-19T15:44:00.003-04:002016-05-19T15:44:48.197-04:00PTGW Part Ten: Praying for Your Future HusbandThe Westminster Shorter Catechism says this about prayer: "Q. What is Prayer? <br />
A. Prayer is the offering up of our desires unto God, for things agreeable to His will, in the name of Christ, with confession of our sins, and thankful acknowledgment of His mercies."<br />
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Philippians 4:6 - 7 "Be careful for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God and the peace of God, which passes all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus."<br />
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Romans 8:26 "Likewise the Spirit also helps our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered."<br />
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There are lots and lots of Bible verses about prayer and you can look them up yourself easily so I only included two of my favorites. Prayer is a pretty amazing thing when you think about it - the ability to go before the King of kings, the God of the universe and talk to Him because you are made holy by the blood of Christ!<br />
Prayer is, of course, one of the most important and blessed parts of being a Christian and if you want clarification on what prayer is or why we do it, I would recommend checking out Joe Morecraft III on sermon audio because he has some excellent sermons on prayer. R.C. Sproul is also a great man to listen to or read on that topic.<br />
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One of the most important things you can do for yourself and your own walk with God is to pray and put yourself and your actions continually before Him. Once you get married, one of the best things you can do for your husband is to pray for him and the same thing is true before you even meet him.<br />
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What are some of the benefits of praying for your husband before you meet him or know who he is?<br />
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1. It allows you to start your relationship as God-centered from the VERY beginning.<br />
We live in a scary time when marriages in America (Christian or not) at this time have a 40-50% divorce rate, and yet among Christian couples who pray together every day the divorce rate is less than 1%! (Unfortunately, the number of Christian couples who pray together every day is very low - less than 8%.) By starting a habit now of praying daily and specifically for your future spouse and your relationship with them you will be doing your marriage a beautiful favor that you can continue once you are married.<br />
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2. It helps to keep your mind and heart focused on God.<br />
In these days of serial dating, casual sex, mainstream pornography/erotica and name-only Christians it can be so easy to get discouraged or anxious about your future and to lower your standards in order to open up your 'options', especially when you have a strong desire to get married. Praying daily and submitting yourself, your future husband and your desires to God will make a HUGE difference in these things.<br />
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3. It really does help the other person and benefits you both long term.<br />
I have been amazed over and over how many of my prayers for Kit over my teenage years were answered in specific ways way before we met and they continue to benefit us in our marriage today. God is the only One who can change anyone's heart or actions and so putting yourself and your spouse into His hands is one of the best things you can do no matter where you are in your journey.<br />
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4. It gives you something to DO in a period of waiting.<br />
One of the most frustrating things about waiting is that it often can feel really useless and depressing. Praying gives you the unique and exciting ability to fight for your spouse and marriage while you are still single.<br />
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Ok, so praying for your future spouse is important, but what does it look like? "Lord please bless my future spouse" is easy but there is soooo much more that you can add to it. Charles Spurgeon said, "There is a general kind of praying which fails for lack of precision. It is as if a regiment of soldiers should all fire off their guns anywhere. Possibly someone would be killed, but the majority of the enemy would be missed."<br />
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James 5:16 "Confess your faults to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much."<br />
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So what are some specific things you can pray for a man you've never met?<br />
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1. Ask God to show you what to pray for - after all, He is the only One who really knows you or your future spouse.<br />
You might be surprised at the things that come into your mind in an answer to this prayer, but go ahead and pray specifically for what God shows you.<br />
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2. Pray for wisdom for your future in-laws - they are shaping the one you will marry and they will be your children's grandparents… this can either be very exciting or very scary.<br />
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3. Pray for the salvation of your future husband and for him to put on the whole armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18 is an EXCELLENT scripture to read and pray through for yourself as well).<br />
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4. Pray for him in what you know to be the most common struggles that men face according to the Bible (and just common sense observation) - anger, lust, discouragement and taking God's name in vain.<br />
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5. Make a list of things that you want or need in a future spouse and go ahead and pray through it every day. My list started with the most important things to me and went something like this:<br />
That he be a man after God's own heart like David<br />
That he show obvious signs of seeking and loving God<br />
That he be a reformed, Westminster standards Christian<br />
That he be good with children<br />
That he be a good provider (capable of holding down a job)<br />
That he not turn to anyone or anything but God for comfort or strength<br />
That he show compassion and honor<br />
That we would agree on political beliefs<br />
I know several people that got as specific as whether or not their spouse would like broccoli, but I would recommend keeping your list to what is really foundationally important (the most common reasons for divorce are actually a great place to start making a list to pray for).<br />
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There are more things I could say on this subject but I'll end with a short story about my own life and courtship.<br />
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I kept a prayer journal as a teenager and prayed specifically for many things for Kit before I knew him. One day during our courtship I was curious and so made up a timeline of what I had prayed for him and when and then asked him about different times in his life without telling him why. I wrote down what he said and guess what?! It matched my prayer timeline EXACTLY! It was astounding and humbling at the same time as I suddenly realized that God really had been answering my prayers for all those years. It is still something that Kit thanks me for and he likes to say that he married me for my prayers which makes me thankful that I stuck with it even when it felt as though I was praying for someone who didn't exist.<br />
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I hope this was helpful and as always I love getting comments as long as they are polite. ;-)<br />
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<br />Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-71206202080580849662016-05-14T14:31:00.002-04:002016-05-14T14:31:48.707-04:00An UpdateWow, it has been soooo long since I've updated this blog! I've actually sat down many times over the past four years to write something but nothing ever seemed quite right. I got yet another comment a few days ago asking for an update and so decided to start there. :-)<br />
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Kit and I have been married for 4 years now and I've sure learned a lot along the way! I am beyond blessed to say that I love being married and that I have learned sooooo much along the ups and downs of married life.<br />
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We've also welcomed a son into our family! He was born very early but is now a happy, bouncy two year old who LOVES music and whose journey has taught me more about God than almost anything else so far in my life.<br />
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I'm looking forward to sharing some of the things I've learned in future posts. Thank you so much for continuing to read this blog - even though I haven't responded to many individual comments over the past few years I have read each one and prayed for each person that commented. I hope you enjoyed this short update! :-)<br />
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<br />Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-29111782439486187742012-02-09T09:04:00.004-05:002012-02-09T10:00:06.805-05:00The Beginning of a New Chapter<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHEiQQQmdwxrT5KylsIxC2taoLCYnvMaQrHxNyD1h-emP_8_iQnEt507r7k3yjs057F_JlygD_zhxP5aKnZmHtdlCMv-_zGUUtg9lrCnHyvChE8JyccRiKEPaRvM1vy0LGICJyluYkwRX1/s1600/402130_329711520394159_284985648200080_1107393_531890731_n.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 213px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHEiQQQmdwxrT5KylsIxC2taoLCYnvMaQrHxNyD1h-emP_8_iQnEt507r7k3yjs057F_JlygD_zhxP5aKnZmHtdlCMv-_zGUUtg9lrCnHyvChE8JyccRiKEPaRvM1vy0LGICJyluYkwRX1/s320/402130_329711520394159_284985648200080_1107393_531890731_n.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5707143240385092146" border="0" /></a><br /><br />On January 7th, 2012 at 11:00 am, Kit and I got married in the same church that my parents and grandparents were married in. :-) We have been married for almost 5 weeks now and it has already been a learning and growing experience. I hope to blog more about the different issues I face as a new wife soon, though I feel that I could use advice more than giving advice in this area... so if anyone has any ideas or tips for me... they would be greatly appreciated. :-)<br /><br />Anyway, here are a few pictures from the best day of my life. :-)<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXGnTp0IRlS6PddJBk32we0rRaJPS_uYocc1qrYWtehgMKXcIdm-euHbDeK03yR8trIxHG_KpDAIPQSWCXY5jT6IKq2N3LNy_DgalZ1HZ9MLsANGR5_daWiC-AjsOQ0zhuQuBjoES_yNk8/s1600/401206_329711403727504_284985648200080_1107388_697500103_n.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 213px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXGnTp0IRlS6PddJBk32we0rRaJPS_uYocc1qrYWtehgMKXcIdm-euHbDeK03yR8trIxHG_KpDAIPQSWCXY5jT6IKq2N3LNy_DgalZ1HZ9MLsANGR5_daWiC-AjsOQ0zhuQuBjoES_yNk8/s320/401206_329711403727504_284985648200080_1107388_697500103_n.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5707138758715843138" border="0" /></a>Getting ready for the big moment :-)<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMusJQLiMsPhhN02zORnwQiCCTjEfbnSfDT6u9J7Ot9tJiJ-QEXMKiqFdXrNsH8RyPn_6go2fK1YZuDePXFe7UbMN-l50O15e8RivkSpOwm1Lm3Y2NWPVXyvt3WfQGv4SUBc0KFyqWxWw5/s1600/390832_2199445244778_1806699723_1489992_505852970_n.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMusJQLiMsPhhN02zORnwQiCCTjEfbnSfDT6u9J7Ot9tJiJ-QEXMKiqFdXrNsH8RyPn_6go2fK1YZuDePXFe7UbMN-l50O15e8RivkSpOwm1Lm3Y2NWPVXyvt3WfQGv4SUBc0KFyqWxWw5/s320/390832_2199445244778_1806699723_1489992_505852970_n.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5707138761899049474" border="0" /></a><br />Dad walked me down the isle, Pastor Walker did the sermon and Dad did the vows... then Pastor Walker pronounced us husband and wife and...<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0-d2XohfCCsq42Y-XdycbFJJeulMHX76UjUjeFSjy1qFevlgFxnOCmdQCyMqRuVhN18EfhQE_G7gtz6QmsvvlvcDeZxALMsRk84SlQiM_AdfOkcCPEgWqOxpueRPqIAohUT4Ihy2Y2hti/s1600/395194_10150521425657372_820372371_8965194_438927239_n.jpg"><br /></a><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiCe4S_PB6T7mJSKcQZXKh5MTZTr-GUpdFcIqBqz5dbnyFlByAra_0Bagt0mX4TqdZnK2kpQfrFGkjerx_cN_at5vSVpPsAEFv5uHCLVEKVITslMIKZ4Ha0ZQOquDSwV6UpLSqg1kafFOR/s1600/399573_329723650392946_284985648200080_1107433_755726284_n.jpg"><img style="display: block; 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margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 213px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhumGHJmoatg5Egprh8gRHHcmNUrCFTIMz-zokgWzTKUXwTz96ZmqWo1Z9M_tSoKGg5-g41ajq6qDebR2f0LdhdWjcUuNb4kPN9JEOETuoLDaxW2u-JCUnKmBSMROyHj4i7xxRFt5YcSBc4/s320/404560_329723627059615_284985648200080_1107432_1198341839_n.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5707143241711960514" border="0" /></a>Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-13301670441116040752011-10-09T12:46:00.005-04:002011-10-09T12:54:22.647-04:00An Important AnnouncementMy apologies, ladies, I have shamefully neglected this blog as of late. And now I am getting on just to let you know that my courtship has recently entered the new stage of engagement. We will be getting married in about three months, Lord willing. Kit and I both greatly appreciate your thoughts and prayers. :-) It is our wish to continue to glorify God as we work towards our marriage.<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiLb5Eg3rDLOqYZiUWe70L6MH_ttHRWWbEmAv_JjOc8f1AxBR3dcK7KA1EcvZSfeQmWPHL410H-QBclwrkzPLmGcvwy6Dfvt9YX2VG5MHD5Wi2vurBDdh_Adhuj29CvCD8TAxwIkXSNzu2F/s1600/DSCN2026.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 286px; height: 215px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiLb5Eg3rDLOqYZiUWe70L6MH_ttHRWWbEmAv_JjOc8f1AxBR3dcK7KA1EcvZSfeQmWPHL410H-QBclwrkzPLmGcvwy6Dfvt9YX2VG5MHD5Wi2vurBDdh_Adhuj29CvCD8TAxwIkXSNzu2F/s320/DSCN2026.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5661536469843517266" border="0" /></a><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZnVnsJX9TVMh54_xzPwihffAO7WjLeD5n6VJDFckwCmsLN6jYcZH__Bq-dsi-ZoKKoGVAb545a3Ngr53Inls0tLeLphypa_Go36fLJbJ7l7DlqvTiQ9lpAFmaAfwVAUFe26ubddusl4Tq/s1600/297799_773945674957_45608541_37375988_196305956_n.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 229px; height: 344px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZnVnsJX9TVMh54_xzPwihffAO7WjLeD5n6VJDFckwCmsLN6jYcZH__Bq-dsi-ZoKKoGVAb545a3Ngr53Inls0tLeLphypa_Go36fLJbJ7l7DlqvTiQ9lpAFmaAfwVAUFe26ubddusl4Tq/s320/297799_773945674957_45608541_37375988_196305956_n.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5661535564391511314" border="0" /></a>Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-43787674453586277122011-04-12T07:44:00.004-04:002011-04-12T07:57:27.665-04:00A New ChapterThis post is a bit of a deviation from my normal kind. I am here to inform you ladies of a recent change in my life and ask for your prayers for guidance.<br /><br />The Lord has been working in my life in many ways and - in the past year - has blessed me with more health and enjoyment of life than I would ever have thought possible. Out of these blessings (of feeling up to doing things again), He has brought many new friends. I am very happy to say that at the end of this past March one of my dear friends and I entered into courtship.<br /><br />Courtship is not engagement or betrothal, but simply the time wherein two friends commit - not to each other - but to seeking the Lord's will regarding their relationship with each other. There is more openness and trust, but no more physical benefits than a close friendship. A successful courtship is one that determines God's will for the relationship.<br /><br />Needless to say, this is a very exciting development, and I am enjoying the journey of getting to know this man better. Please do pray for us and our families - that God would bless us with wisdom and strength to do His will and that we would bring Him honor and glory through this relationship.<br /><br />I appreciate your prayers! :-)<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWxEx6yjPmCVMGt8gL9WuPmcGOf36unTJM1OxxJxEWTEk0zqxhvZkbF4wzrX67nyd4twphWGvQSIu_h01Qp1fSZYxG_kUgHrugKDPuRNhup7bWjpVVTLpQ7MAA-y_Fb6051Le6H3raaEpC/s1600/DSCN0757.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 228px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWxEx6yjPmCVMGt8gL9WuPmcGOf36unTJM1OxxJxEWTEk0zqxhvZkbF4wzrX67nyd4twphWGvQSIu_h01Qp1fSZYxG_kUgHrugKDPuRNhup7bWjpVVTLpQ7MAA-y_Fb6051Le6H3raaEpC/s320/DSCN0757.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5594664379828787026" border="0" /></a><span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /></span>Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-15769440721869942482011-04-04T15:55:00.003-04:002011-04-04T19:25:56.068-04:00Questions About StrugglesLast Thursday I received this comment on one of my posts. I have sat down several times to respond to it, but it raises some difficult questions and I feel rather out of my league. If any of the older women (or young ladies) have some <span style="font-style: italic;">loving</span> help to give in the comment section I would greatly appreciate it. :-) My attempt at a response is below her comment. :-)<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Hello, Joy & All Readers</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">First of all I just want to say God Bless you and every person that shared their thoughts on this blog! I believe it’s truly important to have these informative blogs that help give guidance to young women, or men; especially in regards to topics like this one. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">My name is Beatrice, and I’m 20 years young. I came to God about 2 years ago now. I was raised in the church but strayed for the most part of my teens and came back to Him, only by His mercy; grace; love and will for my life. And I thank Him for that every day. I’ve dealt with low self- esteem; sexual immorality; abuse (both mental and physical) and a number of other things. And I thank God that through all of my faults He’s forgiven me, and forgotten my past and truly helped me to forgive myself, and forget my past as well. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">The reason I share all of this with you is I believe it’s important to let you know a little bit about me. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you this but it’s been my understanding that through our faith in Jesus Christ we are all a family and apart of one body. So, I feel I can look to you all as my sisters; empty vessels I can trust God to use; to shine any wisdom; knowledge; truth; or any insight He might want myself or any other future reader to receive. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Since I’ve come to God I’ve fallen in Love with Him in a way I never even dreamt possible. He’s truly my best friend and I believe I can tell Him any and everything. And often I’ll wait for His responses to anything I might seek Him for... but in this particular case I’m truly finding it a little difficult because I find myself doing things that I normally wouldn’t. I always bring every inappropriate thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ whenever I realize an inappropriate thought has entered my mind. And at first it was a little difficult for me to remember to bring my thoughts into captivity, and at the same time it was a little embarrassing, because I wasn’t use to bringing these thoughts not only to my attention but to Gods as well. But I consider myself blessed that I was directed to do that because it’s only made my relationship with Him better. So having said all of that (I’m sorry if I’m dragging this out by the way, I’ve never done anything like this before =D) my problem is that I feel this method that I’ve used time and time again isn’t proving itself to be as effective as it is in mostly all other areas of my life where I still use it. And I feel that’s where my worrying is stemming from. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Right now I am worried about two main things. (And I’m going to do my best to make this as short as possible for your convenience and the convenience of other readers =S) I started liking a friend of mine that’s a guy because I wouldn’t stop hearing from everyone including himself just how cute we’d be together. I constantly heard promises of us being married (mind you this is after we both came to God) and how good we would be together. And I distinctly remember shutting those thoughts down immediately. For two main reasons; 1st he and I had a sorted past when we were still of the world; 2nd I didn’t want anyone (family/friend or not) to presume they knew what God’s will was for my life no matter how harmless they thought their comments were (there is power in the tongue and I had an eerie feeling about that notion whenever it would come up) but for months people (both family and friends) kept putting that notion of my friend and I being together, out into my sphere of influence. And as I mentioned earlier I had low-self esteem issues growing up, and only recently started truly dealing with it and getting to the root of the cause. (I would draw to those who would show interest in me; not all of the time but 80% of the time I did and maybe 20% of the time I didn’t) So before you knew it feelings for my guy friend manifested and no matter how long I would pray, fast, and plea to God to take them away, they wouldn’t budge. Months later when I was questioned by him to see if I liked him; I found out he’d only been saying that he thought it would be cute to see us together; but didn’t really mean it (mind you he said he didn’t mean it after I’d taken a bold step with God and decided to shave my hair off for reasons He’s still explaining to me to this very day. The decision to take that step was mainly to honour how God sees me over the eyes of everyone else, including myself. I believe God needed to start a healing process and He knows how to heal each and every one of us in our own unique way). Nonetheless you can imagine my heartbreak; anger; and frustration. I hadn’t asked for this, I didn’t want to feel this way, and about my friend that I didn’t even like in the first place; at times it was so depressing. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">But through all of that God released loads of peace and happiness into my life, so much so that after some months had passed I truly felt healed of the heartbreak I thought I’d experienced. And then the unthinkable happened... the feelings returned. And they couldn’t have come at a worse time. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">This leads me to the pinnacle of my blog response... I’m working at a new job and I realized only a few shifts in that this particular job isn’t right for me. (I couldn’t have come to this realization at a better time, because this past January 2011 I just started training in my schools post secondary culinary arts program. And I’m sure you’ve already guessed that the job I got was in of course a kitchen... =D) </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">About a couple weeks after I realized that I do in fact love to cook food, there is something very satisfying about the end result, and a snapshot that just go hand in hand; however to pursue this as a career where I’d have to make further financial investments into the culinary institute I was currently registered in for semesters that would follow my current one... that I just can’t see happening. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">So as you can imagine I’ve found myself in a sticky situation because, I want to go where ever I believe God wants me; trying to be obedient to any of His calls is of the upmost importance to me. Being obedient to His directions has helped not only me but others as well. So with faith I’d like to believe that I’ve been following Him according to His will for my life; trusting that even through my mistakes He will still receive the glory from the decisions I make unto Him. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">As a result I’m a progressive dropout student; with a willingness to go or do anything I believe is Gods will for my life; however this is my actual conundrum... this place I started working at has a male line cook I find myself attracted to... and the upsetting thing is he’s not even a godly man, and from what I’ve gathered he’s not trying to be. And you’d think this would probably help me loose the attraction towards him almost instantaneously, but it’s not and it’s troubling me a lot because along with that about a week and a half ago I had an inappropriate thought about my co-worker and myself, and as God is my witness that hasn’t happened to me in almost 2 years....</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">I believe I handled that specific situation as best as I could, because I confessed my troubles to my sister and brother and asked them to pray for me so that I might be healed. And I just thank God with all of my heart because almost instantly it was like there was a block on my mind; like a wall separating my thoughts. Placing the improper thoughts on a side where they seemed blurry and couldn’t enter into my mind; it was almost like the thought was forgotten, you know?</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">But anyhow now I’m not quite sure what to do. My feelings for my guy friend seemed to have returned, accompanying the new feelings I have for my co-worker. And I’ve been seriously considering asking for a transfer; and that bothers me for 3 distinct reasons. 1st I was just hired and I don’t like the idea of asking to move to another location when they hired me at this specific location because they needed me there; and I believe God placed me there for a reason. 2nd I feel like I’d mainly be transferring because I’m trying to get away from this individual; which is madness because I shouldn’t be runny from anything; God didn’t give me the spirit of fear, but of peace and a sound mind. And the 3rd reason I’m troubled is this new location I’d be asking for the possible transfer to is sort of close to my original residence in another city; and they haven’t opened yet; they’ll be opening anywhere from a few weeks to a couple months maybe. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">I can’t believe how much I wrote I’m so sorry. I really just wanted to make sure I gave you as much information as possible; so that it would help with whatever advice you feel led to give me; or anyone else for that matter. I just want to thank you again for taking the time to read all of this, and I hope God gives you a word that you can pass on to me, or anyone else in my situation that will help through what I can only assume is a growing process. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Take Care and God Bless; I hope to hear from you soon.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">P.s this is my email address just in case... Beat_rice_13@hotmail.com </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"><br /> Dear Beatrice,<br /><br /> First I'd like to say thank you so much for everything that you shared! :-) I (and I'm sure everyone else who has had the opportunity to read about your experiences) feel honored by your trust and sincerely hope and pray that God will use us to bless and help you!<br /><br /> That being said, I cannot tell you what you should do in your specific situation - only God can do that and it does sound as though you are seeking His will. However, I can share some Bible verses and general principles that may be helpful to be reminded of.<br /><br /></span>"<span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.</span><br /><br /> <span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">are</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);"> noble, whatever things </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">are</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);"> just, whatever things </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">are</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);"> pure, whatever things </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">are</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);"> lovely, whatever things </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">are</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);"> of good report, if </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">there is</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);"> any virtue and if </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">there is</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);"> anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you." - Philippians 4:6-9</span><br /><br />"<span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">hosts</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);"> of wickedness in the heavenly </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">places.</i> Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. <br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints" Ephesians 6:11-28</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"><br /> I don't know what other posts on this blog that you have read, but anything else that I would say to you would be included in my post "<a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2010/05/lily-among-thorns-part-2.html">Lily Among Thorns - Part 2</a>"<br /><br /> In that post you can be directed to other places where I've shared the things that have helped me in the area of mental purity. The most important thing that I would say is to keep your eyes on God through reading His Word and spending time alone in prayer with Him.<br /><br /> My dear sister, you have done the right thing in seeking Godly accountability, praying, and in being constant in the battle of your heart and mind. It will always be a battle, but by God's grace you will prevail - through Christ we are more than conquerors (Romans 8:37). Just remember that just because it is a struggle does not mean that it is a sin - Jesus Christ was sinless, and yet was faced temptation. It is what we do with the temptation that is important and will decide if we are keeping in step with the Spirit (Galatians 5:16-26 ) or the flesh.<br /><br /> One last Bible verse that I would like to share with you is <span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">2 Corinthians 12:9-10 </span></span><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);"> "And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong."</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"><br /> Continue to turn to the Lord in your weakness, that His strength may be perfected in you! :-)<br /><br />I will be praying for you, for encouragement, wisdom, and strength! May God bless you! If you think of it, I would love to hear from you - how you are doing and any updates on your current situation.<br /><br />in Christ's love,<br />Joy<br /><br /></span>Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-55380084172713764612010-12-21T10:14:00.010-05:002011-01-04T19:52:21.052-05:00School - Public or Home?I appreciate everyone's responses to my request in the post "<a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2010/08/public-school-vs-home.html">Public School vs Home</a>". I have chosen one person out of each of the four categories that were submitted. One young lady was exclusively home schooled; two were exclusively public schooled but graduated with very different views, and one was public schooled for her early education and was home schooled for her high school years.<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0);">*EDIT* Technical difficulties are a thing of the past - all of the essays are now available on this post. :-)</span><br /><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Benefits of Homeschool over Public School</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">By Lieren S.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> Hello! My name is Lieren S., I am 16 years old, and have been homeschooled all my life. I do not know very much about public school, but based on what little I do know, I am continually grateful to my parents for their decision to homeschool me! As the oldest of 11 children, I have had the great blessing not only of being homeschooled myself, but also of helping to homeschool my younger siblings. Yes, I have sometimes thought that it would be fun to go to school, and it might be - for about a day. Because I am homeschooled, I have been able to pursue many things that I would not have had time for in public school, such as filmmaking, baking, and helping my father in his self-employed business. Below are several reasons why I believe homeschooling is superior to public school. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> 1. Homeschooling is consistent with the Bible. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> Look up in your concordance, and tell me where you find the word “education.” It is never mentioned in the Bible. Broaden that to “wisdom”, “knowledge” and “understanding”, and you will find a host of verses - even the entire book of Proverbs - dedicated to the impartation of wisdom. Perhaps the most common verse used to support homeschooling is Deuteronomy 6:6-9:</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">“And these words which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently into thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.”</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Obviously, it would be very difficult to obey this verse in the public school system! </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> 2. There is little to no negative peer pressure. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">The common saying “if all your friends jumped off a cliff, would you jump too?” seems funny at first, but in reality it is a very important question. Do you care more about what your friends think of you, or what God thinks of you? Proverbs 4:14-15 says: </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">“Enter not into the path of the wicked and go not in the way of evil men. Avoid it, pass not by it, turn from it and pass away.”</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">The “path of the wicked” could very well describe public school. Why would you intentionally place yourself in the middle of temptation and evil? Homeschooling allows you to build lasting friendships with like-minded people, who will encourage you rather than tempt you to compromise. And when your only classmates are your siblings, peer pressure is never an issue! </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> 3. The schedule is flexible. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> This is one of the more practical benefits of homeschooling - and one of the most fun! If something unexpected occurs, it’s not difficult to simply rearrange the schedule to accommodate it. It also makes you more available to help others. Every other Thursday, for example, my mom takes my grandmother out to lunch, and visits with her. She takes a few kids with her, and they are able to be a blessing to my grandmother in a way they could not be if they were in public school. There are also fun benefits! For example, our family always goes on vacation during the first two weeks of September. During the two most beautiful weeks of the year (we think!), while most kids are headed back to school, we’re headed on vacation! During the heat of summer you can sit in your air conditioned house and do schoolwork, and then take a month or two off to enjoy the beautiful fall weather and rake leaves.:-) </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> 4. You are able to interact comfortably with all ages.</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">The way the school system lumps all children in with their own age group results in teenagers that don’t know how to communicate with anyone besides other teenagers. They don’t know how to talk intelligently with adults, or interact with younger children. This is not only inadequate preparation for living life as an adult, but it also misses the amazing experience of learning from the older and wiser men and women who have gone before us. Learning outside of the public school system naturally puts us in position to combine the wisdom of age with the energy of youth, while public school goes in the opposite direction, making the Biblical pattern of mentoring much more difficult. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> 5. It keeps the family intact. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">The breakup of the family in America and around the world has been widely caused by the public school system. Although television, ipods, computers and other technology have done their share to create a ‘me-centered‘ world, government schools are one of the biggest offenders. With the kids on the school bus and out of the way every morning, the mothers are ‘free’ to pursue their own interests. This ‘freedom’ for women, has ultimately resulted in more women than men in the work force today. And we wonder where all the men have gone! God created men and women different for a purpose - the family. Men are better able than women to handle the stress and difficulties of work outside the home. Women are better able than men to handle the stress and difficulties of running a household and raising children. This is not random chance! This is how God designed it to be! In the homeschool family, the mother and children are at home together all day long. Although for some this may seem more like a nightmare than a dream, the relationships built with family at home are the cornerstones of rebuilding our fallen country. And the more time you spend with your family, the more time you will want to spend with them. Really! :-) </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> “Let them alone; they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.” Matthew 15:14 </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> Imagine with me for a moment that both of us are blind, and trying to make our way across a busy intersection. If I attempted to lead you, we would both meet with disaster because neither of us could see where we were going. In the same way, most students at public schools are spiritually blind and without direction. If you allow the blind to lead you, disaster will occur. Keep your eyes on the light, for you are not blind! You have the King of the Universe for your father, and He has a perfect and beautiful plan for your life. Do not waste your time on the frivolous and oftentimes harmful pleasures the world has to offer. Live each moment for the glory of your King, and prepare yourself to serve Him until His task for you is complete. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> “Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good or whether it be evil.”</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Ecclesiastes 10: 13-14 </span><br /><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"> By Olivia -<br />Government schools are not fairy tales like movies show them to be (Highschool Musical, A Cinderella story, etc.) – they are dangerous places. More than ever we see young ladies roaming around lost, unprotected, and unloved. Trying to be found, protected and loved, many young women fantasize that a new and better life would be found somewhere else other than their home – like attending a public school where they can be with friends all day or be noticed more than they are now.</span><span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"></span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"> I am 17 years old and was adopted into a loving, Christian homeschooling family when I was ten years old. Before being homeschooled, I attended public schools. I can tell you from experience they are not always fun and jolly. Yes, any day can bring fun – no matter where you are. But we have to look at the value of the fun being given. My parents, and most homeschooling parents, choose to homeschool their children because of their love for their children and their desire to protect them by showing them the Truth…Jesus Christ. Your parents desire your heart and your mind and are unwilling to hand them over to the government school system, especially for the sake of a different kind of “fun”. They aren’t just keeping you home to help clean the house, keep the younger children together, to have no friends, or whatever reason may be making you discontent. Homeschooling can be very "fun"! It is all in your choice of attitude.</span><span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"></span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"> Young ladies, I encourage you to be thankful for the blessing you were given in being homeschooled. I know a young Christian public high school student that has been government schooled all the way through school. She has said to me before that she wishes she had been homeschooled and really values all that she sees in my life. Many people think that being public schooled is a way to share the gospel with the lost, but what happens is that the Christian student often gets “preached” to from the government system and ends up losing their heart to the lies being fed to them. </span><span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"></span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"> Please value the gift your parents are giving you and don’t long for some “fairy-tale” called public school. Do not toss aside the gift your parents are giving you – a gift from God!</span><br /><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);">Public high school is often quite unfairly vilified in my opinion. Public high school is what you make of it. If you take advantage of the resources and put in the effort, you can get a lot out of it. If you hang out with the “good” kids, you most likely won’t get dragged into perilous situations (crazy parties, drugs, etc.) as is often depicted in the movies. My opinion of public school is almost entirely positive. I was in New England public schools from kindergarten until I graduated from high school, and am now a student at a private college. I can’t imagine having experienced the same academic and personal growth from completing high school at a private school or at home. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);">First, I should probably tell you a bit about who I am. I have always been an introverted person. I was born introverted, and will probably be introverted for the rest of my life. However, when I was younger, I was also quite shy. Now, I am much less shy, although I am not outgoing by any means. I am also self-motivated. In this regard, I think I would have done well with homeschooling. I love to learn. Another important note: I’m quite familiar with homeschooling, since they majority of my cousins are/have been homeschooled. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);">Academically, I had an amazing high school experience. The public schools in my town are pretty good and my school offered a fair number of honors and AP (advanced placement) courses. I didn’t have as much freedom to choose my classes during the 9th and 10th grades since I had more required classes. However, this was fine since I did not really know what I wanted to study yet anyway. I did have the freedom to choose the levels of the classes I took (AP vs. honors vs. college prep. My school also offered level 2 and 3 classes, which were for students who were either not planning on college or needed extra help). By taking mostly honors classes, most of my classmates were the same (my graduating class was 230, but I really only took classes with about 50 of them). During my junior and senior years, I got to choose most of my classes, as well as some of my teachers. I loved the sciences, so I took mostly science classes. My school offered some science courses on specific topics, such as aquatic ecosystems. During my senior year, I took seven academic classes (and when I say academic, I mean sciences/math/English/foreign language) in addition to an online course. On any given night, I could have 3-7 hours of homework. With my extracurriculars on top of this, I was busy with school from 6:30 in the morning until I went to bed at 10. This may seem like a lot, but my work increased gradually throughout my public school education. In 9th grade, I probably had about 1-4 hours of homework per night and fewer extracurriculars. So, by the time I reached my senior year, I felt well prepared and ready to tackle it. It definitely taught me effective time and stress management. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);">I hear a lot of unfairly negative critiques of public school teachers. Most high school teachers are there because they enjoy teaching and know a lot about their subject. Of course, there’s always the chance that you’ll get a teacher who is not great. However, you will also have six other teachers who could be amazing. Several years after my high school graduation, I am still in contact with my favorite teachers. I learned a lot from my high school teachers, and most of them truly care about their students. They’re typically kind and helpful people, not the scary out-of-touch adults that movies usually depict. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);">I also had a good social experience in high school. High school can be rather clique-y, but for me, that was not a bad thing. I had a group of about 10 friends who I had classes with and would hang out with outside of class. My group of friends coexisted with everyone else at school. I never personally experienced any bullying and we certainly never bullied anyone else. That’s not to say that bullying doesn’t exist; it does. However, you should not automatically think “If I go to public school, I’m going to have to worry about bullies.” That simply isn’t true. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);">Going to public school definitely made me less shy. I’m not saying being shy is necessarily a bad thing, but it is if it interferes with your ability to stand up for yourself and what you believe in. I learned good social skills and how to interact with many different people. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);">I usually did not have very much time to spend with friends outside of school. Sometimes we would get together on a Friday or Saturday night, but we never partied. Honestly, I never even heard about any high school parties (at least not the “traditional” crazy high school parties. Of course, my friends and I had small birthday parties, but these usually included a movie and a sleepover). Even if we didn’t have a lot of time outside of school, I still got to spend 8 hours a day with my friends since we were typically in the same classes. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);">I obviously do not think that homeschoolers are in any way inferior or lacking in socialization. However, I do have one problem with homeschooling (especially if you’re homeschooling for religious purposes, but this applies to all homeschooling): I don’t believe that anyone can effectively learn about people who have very different ideas/lifestyles by homeschooling. Learning to interact with very different people is something that I would not get by socializing with friends from church or family friends or even by having a part-time job. This is something that I got from public schooling. I learned to put myself in others’ shoes and really understand their perspectives and why they came to think as they do. Also, I think that learning from someone who is not a member of your family or your church is highly beneficial. No matter what you do in life, these are skills that you need to have in order to truly understand people.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);">Regarding movies depicting public school: NONE of them are remotely accurate. Neither the good nor the bad parts reflect the true high school experience, at least from my point of view. My two favorite high school movies are The Breakfast Club and Mean Girls (funnily enough, both of these movies depict high school as a horrifying experience). Despite my love for these films, I am so thankful that they are NOT real. The high school social scene is not nearly as scary as shown in either of these films. Films that show a more utopian view of high school, like High School Musical, are just as unrealistic. Watching High School Musical and then wanting to go to public school is like watching The Beauty and the Beast and then wanting to go to a French castle (I’m sorry, but you will be sorely disappointed. Public school and French castles lack both the singing). It is a MOVIE, not real life. Never base real-life decisions on movies. That’s just a good rule in general. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);">If you’re a homeschooler looking to start public school, chances are you will not fall in love with Zac Efron or be manipulated by Regina George. High school is neither a particularly romantic place, nor a scary one. Public school is, above all else, a school. It’s a place to get an education. If you’re a Christian homeschooler, you can absolutely go to public school. If you don’t want to, you don’t have to party or date (I didn’t) and still have a fulfilling high school experience with great friends. Believe it or not, you have choices as a public school student. I would not take back my public school education for anything. I would recommend considering public high school, but don’t expect it to be anything like the movies. You’re there to learn and to grow. My high school was a second home for me; one full of great people and memories. </span><br /><br /><br /> <span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);"> A Public Experience</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);"> By Jacy</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);">Going to public school for me was about friends and boys. Now, don’t get me wrong. I had great classes and some good teachers, most of the time. But as a growing young lady, my focus was never on what was good for me. There are so many kids from all different walks of life trying to be educated in one place, with only one set of rules for everyone. My hungry brain was not being fed the right kinds of food. Public school allowed me to have some good friends. But on the flip side, public school helped me birth excuses against thriving in education and protecting my heart. Eventually I grew out of that stage, but not without some emotional scars.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);"> I believe the biggest problem in public school today is more than just the constant bullying, the overcrowding of classrooms, lack of teacher assistance and experience. It is kids not having the desire or knowledge as to how to guard their hearts properly and to focus on what God wants in their lives. Some of these children have no solid love in their lives, and we expect them to interact with others with dignity and respect that they never had themselves. I’ve known many kids whose parents were divorced, on drugs or plainly just did not care what their child did as long as the parents were not bothered.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);">Children need love and attention, and when they don’t get what their hearts need at home, school is the next best stop. Can you really blame the child for being a product of their circumstances? Yes, they need to be disciplined like everyone else, but are we really seeing the potential public school can have, and the ministry it can be? Instead of being positive about preparing our children to be a Christ-like example in school, we see it as a passage way to bad choices. The key is deepening a child’s foundation in God that they can withstand and go through the trials of public school as a better compassionate and loving Christian. Sometimes separating children too much from public school is not equipping a child to learn how to interact with others who need Jesus. The fear of our children falling into temptation in schools moves us to keep them segregated, away from the “problem.” I am not against homeschooling, but the problem really lies in the heart of a child or person. There are many unhealthy and ungodly habits being introduced to children at home all over the world.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);">I wasn’t homeschooled, but my husband was for some of his education. But by middle school and high school, he attended public school in the same town where he grew up. Using both of our experiences while thinking about this article, I concluded that middle school is by far the most terrifying and life changing part of a child’s life. They are neither a small kid nor a teenager, but in between. How confusing a time for them! Being in between two stages that is when children have harder times of adjustment, discipline, acceptance and discernment. Their hearts are still very innocent, and yet society is pushing them to grow quickly when they may not be ready.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);"> For the most part, I went to school with unbelievers. I myself was not much of a follower of Christ until my early 20s, but I still knew there was a God and wanted to know more about Him. I just had no guidance as to how to do that, never mind even a Bible.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);"> Rebellion became my antidote. Children subconsciously know that their lives are meant for more, but what they don’t understand is that God has promised them a role so much higher than where they are right now. Without the proper guidelines from His Word and without good Christian examples in their lives, public school can be a pit of hot rebellion racing through their veins. They lash out just to prove to themselves that they are worth something. Kids try and gain some respect and identity through their harsh words and actions because they have not been taught that they need to be like the Lord Jesus Christ. They have not been told to guard their hearts and keep their emotional purity set on God.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);"> I remember my journal pages filled up daily with juicy details about how a boy I liked smiled at me that day. Or how when he spoke, my heart would flutter and I couldn’t breathe. These are all natural reactions, but I can see now how that was dangerous. Instead of focusing on my schoolwork, I was focusing on another human being to satisfy my hearts desires. As a young girl, this is meant to happen. However I know I could have saved so much time and heartbreak if I was equipped with the proper scriptures concerning my heart and how I needed to have it flutter for God.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);"> Guarding your heart is a daily practice. Going to public school is not just about guarding yourselves physically, but even more so is being pure emotionally. I had spent the majority of my energy swooning over young men and living in my fantasy world that did not exist. I was a creative child and loved art. I credit my imagination for saving my soul against the pressures of drugs and alcohol. Because of my God given gifts, I was able to occupy myself most of the time with something positive and have an outlet for my feelings. But most kids don’t have that, and they don’t know what to turn to in order to satisfy that emptiness inside.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);"> I don’t think public school allows children to keep that innocence within their hearts. I believe the school system has good intentions, but not for the kids. We seem too consumed with the best state test scores and all these fancy numbers that don’t mean anything if a child is still lost and lonely. Yes, we scored the highest grades in our math division! And yet a child is being bullied every day without anyone, teachers included, stepping in to make a real difference. Our main focus in education needs to be on growing and building up these children to be leaders in the world that is in dire need of true compassion and love.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);">I have been fortunate to have some good teachers who actually care more about the test scores, and focus on touching a child’s heart. But they are few and far between, and this world is not slowing down at a pace that children can cope properly with the many transitions that occur after they done with school.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);">Proverbs 22:6 says “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);">True education needs to start at home. Whether they’re homeschooled or attend public school, children need to be reminded of a higher purpose in their lives so that they will be less likely to try and grasp at the unfulfilling strings in the world. Talk to them but more important, listen. We need to listen to our children because they are calling out for help. When a child rebels against authority, they really are speaking out. Who will hear them? If not you, God will always listen but do they know that? Do our children really know that God is with them always?</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);">Public school for me had many great memories. I had some good and solid friends that I still have today, and am able to minister to thanks to God’s divine intervention. I grew in my talents and Godly gifts thanks to the teachers He placed in my life. But my experience is an exception to many children who did not make it all the way to graduation. The ones who did not have education start at home and the ones who never felt what real love truly was. The power in our hands lets us decide whether we will help our children grow and prosper, or wallow as the product of their circumstances.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102);">Will you be the one that will listen?</span><br /><br /><br /><br />I would like to thank everyone who submitted an essay! :-) It was very interesting and helpful to read your different viewpoints and experiences.<br /><br />If anyone is interested in studying this further, I recommend John Taylor Gatto's book "The Underground History of American Education" - available for online reading at <a href="http://www.johntaylorgatto.com/chapters/index.htm">http://www.johntaylorgatto.com/chapters/index.htm</a>. Mr Gatto is an interesting man and was named New York State Teacher of the Year three times - it is fascinating to read his perspective of the system that he taught in for so long.<br /><br />Another book I recommend is "Safely Home" by Tom Eldredge - this book was written by a Christian author and is an amazing study of the history of education among other things. Though not available online, it is for sale for a reasonable price (new or used).<br /><br />I do hope that this was helpful to you, and I will do my utmost to ensure that the other two essays are included as soon as possible. :-)Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-7478975481831570052010-08-09T08:10:00.004-04:002010-08-30T06:39:33.990-04:00Public School Vs HomeI have noticed a large amount of young ladies who want to go to public school as soon as they reach highschool age, however, when I talk to them they really have no idea what they are hoping for or in for.<br /><br />All of the popular teen movies (like Highschool Musical, A Cinderella Story, Princess Protection Program) that most of these girls are watching promote a 'fairy-tale' version of public school. Even the "bad" parts of the movie, where the main character is made fun of or abused, is not 'that bad'.<br /><br />Would anyone be willing to share their experience of public school in an essay of 2,000 words or less? If so, please e-mail it to me at joymarie89 [at] aol [dot] com <span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">- Edit: My apologies, ladies, this should read: missjoymarie89 (at) aol (dot) com . Got it right except for the 'miss' at the beginning! Please try again to send me your essay! -</span><br /><br />The three top essays will be posted on this blog. Thanks a lot! :-)Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com18tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-57386339288577386762010-05-28T19:50:00.008-04:002010-06-15T17:02:37.522-04:00Lily Among Thorns - Part 2<span style="font-size:100%;"> Okay, so </span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3zYg9kSojBsYLdLt6uX2yFhHQc5AaoZAM8flNJzDOShVaFdWMMiDeko_LrR4PMOOeYhBoPQxZvUvJ3w1l5oJOtz9fpzjCnHhBQo_E5cLnWlxlih5dxEIp_fGsAJtzlT274gF43oTgzKRA/s1600/GillenaCox_Lily_of_the_Valley.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 133px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3zYg9kSojBsYLdLt6uX2yFhHQc5AaoZAM8flNJzDOShVaFdWMMiDeko_LrR4PMOOeYhBoPQxZvUvJ3w1l5oJOtz9fpzjCnHhBQo_E5cLnWlxlih5dxEIp_fGsAJtzlT274gF43oTgzKRA/s200/GillenaCox_Lily_of_the_Valley.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5483087775037981746" border="0" /></a><span style="font-size:100%;">now we know what a <a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2010/04/lily-among-thorns-part-1.html">Lily looks like</a>, and we know that is what we want, but </span><span style="font-style: italic;font-size:100%;" >HOW DO WE GET THERE FROM WHERE WE ARE</span><span style="font-size:100%;">??? Of course, God is the One who does the work in us and we wouldn't even be wanting to be closer to Him unless He had called us (1 John 4:19), but so often we feel the fire of passion for God growing in our spirit and we just don't know what to do with it. Thankfully, God has given us very clear instructions in the Bible about what He wants us to do when we feel Him calling us to a more fulfilled and God-centered life than we now have.<br /><span style="font-style: italic;">(Note: See the end of the post for some recommended tools in starting out on this new phase of your life.)</span><br />So what are we supposed to do after we have 'accepted Jesus Christ as our personal Lord and Savior'?<br /></span><br /><span style="font-size:100%;">1.</span>"<span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths</span>." Proverbs 3:5-6<br /><span style="font-size:100%;"> "<span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Commit thy way unto the Lord, trust also in Him and He shall bring it to pass. And He shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light and thy judgment as the noonday</span>." Psalm 37:5-6 (Go and read all of Psalm 37, it's really amazing!)<br />Okay, so, how are we supposed to commit our way unto the Lord? PRAY!!!<br />As you start out on this brand new phase of your life, go into a quiet room all by yourself (the bathroom works good for this if you honestly can't find anywhere else), get down on your knees (yes, I'm serious), and pray out loud to the God of the Universe who is calling to your heart (if you pray quietly or in a whisper, that's okay too, but it is important that you say the words with your mouth as well as your heart).<br />Commit your life, job, relationships, health, anger, fear, talents, everything to your Father, and ask Him to direct your paths and to show you what to do next.<br />Ask Him to show you what is in your life that is tying you to this world, is an idol to you or is standing between you and Him.<br /><br />2. <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">"</span></span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life."</span> Galations 6:7-8<br /><span style="font-size:100%;">As you begin to do this, God will show you what is that you are idolizing. What it is that you are escaping to when you should be going to Him. (Escaping might sound something like this: "Oh man, I'm so stressed out! I just need to shut my mind off for a little while. I think I'll go watch a movie... go on facebook... vent on my blog... listen to music... go shopping... have some chocolate...")<br />One good way to evaluate whether or not something is an idol is to ask yourself whether or not you could live without it. (I believe that Leslie Ludy has a whole section on this in her book "Set Apart Femininity" that was very helpful to me. I wish that I could quote her, but I don't have the book at the moment.)<br /><br />3. <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">"</span></span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish." </span>Galations 5:16-17<br />(It goes on to list what the works of the flesh are... very interesting. If you have a moment, make sure to go read Galations 5:13-26)<br /><span style="font-size:100%;">As God shows you what you are replacing Him with, GET RID OF IT!!! Let nothing stand against your pursuit of Him! And please realize that He might not be calling you to never ever have another piece of chocolate again, but perhaps if you go on a fast from it, you might have an easier time "sowing to the spirit and not the flesh".<br /><br />4."</span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">...</span>" Ephesians 6:18<br />Take the time that is freed up by getting rid of your 'escape', and use it to read the Bible and pray. Make sure not to fill it up with something else. If you get stop watching movies but take that time to listen to music (yes, even Christian music), than you are missing the point. The whole point of any kind of fast in this context (whether of entertainment, food, or anything), is to deny the flesh and to free up more time to spend with God and find out what He is calling you to.<br />I'll give you a very quick example out of my own life. My parents go for a walk every evening and it takes them about 30-45 minutes. Now by this time my chores are all done and I am free to do whatever I want (within reason of course) ;-). This is a perfect opportunity to spend time in prayer. (Besides, I found that when I had a time limit like that, it made it so that I was not constantly looking at the clock or trying to 'hurry up and get it over with'.)<br />This is an exercise of your will and your spirit, and if you are not used to it this can be tiring, but it will be very rewarding if you use the time to pray according to God's will.<br /><br />(One quick note on prayer: if you run out of things to pray for, try opening the Bible to a Scripture, say Ephesians 6:10-18 or Psalm 37, and praying through it. - ie "Dear Father, help me not to fret myself because of evildoers, and not to be envious against the workers of iniquity... Rather work in my heart that I may trust in You, and give me wisdom and strength from You to do good. Help me to delight myself in You, and let the desire of my heart be to be a good and faithful servant to You. Lord, I do commit my way unto you, and do choose to trust in you, please give me righteousness that shines like the light<br />Also, consider this quote: "There is a general kind of praying which fails for lack of precision. It is as if a regiment of soldiers should all fire off their guns anywhere. Possibly somebody would be killed, but the majority of the enemy would be missed." - Charles Spurgeon, The Metroplitan Tabernacle Pulpit)<br /><br />5. <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">"</span></span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; And having in a readiness to revenge all disobedience, when your obedience is fulfilled."</span> 2 Corinthians 10:3-6<br />As God shows you the strongholds in your life, go ahead and use the mighty weapons that He has given you (Ephesians 6:10-18) to pull down the strongholds, cast down the imaginations of your heart (for some young ladies sensual imaginings is a huge stumbling block) etc.<br /><br />6. <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">"Therefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and rest your hope fully upon the grace that is to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ; as obedient children, not conforming yourselves to the former lusts, as in your ignorance; but as He who called you </span><i style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">is</i> holy, you also be holy in all <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">your conduct, because it is written, </span><i style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> </i><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">“Be holy, for I am holy.”"</span> 1 Peter 1:13-16<br />Continue to fight against the idols in your life by refreshing yourself through prayer.<br />Also see "<a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2010/03/physical-side-of-mental-purity.html">The Physical Side of Mental Purity</a>" "<a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2010/02/compromises.html">Compromises</a>" "<a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2009/10/crushes-on-unavailable-men.html">Crushes on Unavailable Men</a>" "<a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2009/08/ptgw-part-eight-b-taking-care-of-your.html">PTGW Part 8: Taking Care of Your Soul</a>" "<a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2009/03/questions-about-crushes-attention-and.html">Questions About Crushes, Attention, and Other Stuff!</a>" "<a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2008/07/joyful-thankful-heart.html">A Joyful, Thankful Heart</a>" and "<a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2008/02/mental-romance.html">Tips for Mental Purity</a>" for some more in depth practical suggestions about some of the more common strongholds and stumbling blocks for young ladies.<br /><br />7. <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">"Jesus answered him, “The first of all the commandments is: ‘Hear, O Israel, the LORD our God, the LORD is one. And you shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment. And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no other commandment greater than these.”"</span> Mark 12:29-31<br />Pray, pray, pray! Pray without ceasing! Pray for the strength of God in this time of growing in your life! Pray that He would make you into a woman after His own Heart! Pray specifically for the godly qualities you are lacking! You are going to need His help, for "...Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”" Matthew 19:26b<span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /><br />And now for the recommended tools that I promised!<br /><br />1. "<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Steps-Freedom-Christ/dp/0830728783">The Steps to Freedom</a>" by Neil Anderson - this is a great tool for the start of your journey and can help you to identify the strongholds in your life and cast them down. I would highly recommend this to EVERYONE!!! (Don't get turned off by how small it is, it is a powerful tool because it uses the Truth of God's Word to identify and cast down strongholds.) <span style="color: rgb(204, 0, 0);">Highly Recommended</span><br /><br />2. "<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Praying-Gods-Word-Spiritual-Strongholds/dp/0805464336/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1276634562&sr=1-1">Praying God's Word: Breaking Free From Spiritual Strongholds</a>" by Beth Moore - this is an excellent place to start praying God's word, and gives a little more concentrated help on the areas of weakness in your life. <span style="color: rgb(204, 0, 0);">Recommended </span><br /><br />3. "<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Get-out-That-Pit-Devotional/dp/B001IV5W9O/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1276634870&sr=1-1-spell">Get Out of That Pit: A 40-Day Devotional Journal</a>" by Beth Moore - I have never read the original book, but this journal is very helpful for those struggling with depression. <span style="color: rgb(204, 0, 0);">Recommended</span><br /><br />4. "<a href="http://store.ellerslie.com/URLrewrite.asp?404;http://7dmp6.tpyd7.servertrust.com:80/Set_Apart_Femininity_by_Leslie_Ludy_p/book-saf.htm&Redirected=Y">Set Apart Femininity</a>" by Leslie Ludy - This book is one of the main ways that God called me to more than the mediocre Christianity I was living. <span style="color: rgb(204, 0, 0);">Highly Recommended</span><br /><br />5. "<a href="http://store.ellerslie.com/URLrewrite.asp?404;http://7dmp6.tpyd7.servertrust.com:80/Wrestling_Prayer_by_Eric_and_Leslie_Ludy_p/book-wp.htm&Redirected=Y">Wrestling Prayer</a>" by Eric and Leslie Ludy - If you are looking for a step by step guide to becoming more than a mediocre Christian, this is an amazing and very challenging book to grow you in your faith and service to the Lord! <span style="color: rgb(204, 0, 0);">Highly Recommended<br /></span><br />6. "The Bible" the supernaturally inspired and perfect Word of God. <span style="color: rgb(204, 0, 0);">Highly Highly Highly HIGHLY Recommended!!!!</span><br /><br /><br />And just one last word of encouragement...<span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> </span></span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">“So I say to you, ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened."</span> Luke 11:9-10<br /><br /><span style="font-size:100%;">(These verses in this post are just meant to get you started, please go ahead and read the full chapters and books that I have quoted from here and continue to seek God with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength. As usual, if you have any questions, or if you come across any other verses that you think would enhance this post, or would be a blessing to those reading it, please leave a comment.)<br /></span>Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-36228757808526336722010-05-27T19:53:00.000-04:002010-06-15T16:58:09.080-04:00Jewelry!Hello there, ladies! I am working on part 2 of the Lilly post, but I wanted to announce that my <a href="http://thejoyofjewelry.blogspot.com/">Jewelry Website</a> is now open! :-) Go check it out and tell a friend! :-) <a href="http://thejoyofjewelry.blogspot.com/">thejoyofjewelry.blogspot.com</a><br /><center><a href="http://thejoyofjewelry.blogspot.com/" target="_blank"><img src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfZO02bZQRPAySVce9JKAABJl-doEyVMHpuCKS-kLF7RX-nIalAkQLZz4H_IaaAdreda1v7UP-ZneRYb15Do8IVh4B_dO2LKKYc1Rqo25hId3LOF1COqM8e7R5AtqaBjrsoQuzkqiySYyA/s1600/the+joy+of+jewelry+button.jpg" alt="The Joy of Jewelry Button" border="0" /></a><br /><br /></center>Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-57034516745937433992010-04-28T14:55:00.011-04:002010-06-15T16:57:36.330-04:00Lily Among Thorns - Part 1<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHt703OsSmWH284FX0cDW7H0Qr2nCblQnzzmIlExt4EotJr6PPXYlBE3kuARky8qZCagF4tp0Gs7z_wpNSzFqop50ddZcJiYni9Beae4JoMXeK3TJfFSOMmzRoHGZOAIRg1LJPoVB-V9tA/s1600/Bramble-Thorns.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 162px; height: 129px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHt703OsSmWH284FX0cDW7H0Qr2nCblQnzzmIlExt4EotJr6PPXYlBE3kuARky8qZCagF4tp0Gs7z_wpNSzFqop50ddZcJiYni9Beae4JoMXeK3TJfFSOMmzRoHGZOAIRg1LJPoVB-V9tA/s200/Bramble-Thorns.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5465545498724175506" border="0" /></a><br />"As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters." Song of Solomon 2:2<br /><br />Who wouldn't want to be something as beautiful as a lily, especially when the alternative is an ugly thorn whose sole purpose is to wound and destroy?<br /><br />Although the Song of Solomon speaks mostly about the love in a marriage relationship, we know that the only way that we can truly become as a lily among thorns is through a life devoted to Christ. It is only through Christ that we can live at all; without him we are completely dead spiritually.<br /><br />Now I know that we need to look at Scripture as a whole and not just take one verse and run wild with it, but this post is based on the principles that I have seen all throughout Scripture and I have chosen this particular verse because it illustrates the goal so beautifully. So please just bear with me as I use the idea in this Scripture to create a picture in your mind.<br /><br />To be truly set apart, to be so obviously more beautiful and different than others, to be as pure and unsullied as a lily. We all, as Christian young ladies, want this. In fact I would venture to guess that every single woman out there - Christian or not - would love the idea of being so beautiful that she is like a lily compared to thorns.<br /><br />So why, when we look around at the Christian young ladies that we see, does it seem that the Church is so full of thorns without a single lily? Or at best we see a bunch of thorns with only the promise of a<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEik6jRobnLKSkx8ARmNMStVckThxAG3g-tsnFcZcWPUq1XK0j14XVRM2sg4TJYCL7Fnrqc80PVjG1Q-GQ_Zkc-cMABsfqdGFCiQ1RGBsUGlCq5JR12-FNEnDfqZRqKFhLCrUNRUfmS-qef-/s1600/16144-stock-photo-of-unopened-lily-buds-by-cathy-mckinty.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 158px; height: 158px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEik6jRobnLKSkx8ARmNMStVckThxAG3g-tsnFcZcWPUq1XK0j14XVRM2sg4TJYCL7Fnrqc80PVjG1Q-GQ_Zkc-cMABsfqdGFCiQ1RGBsUGlCq5JR12-FNEnDfqZRqKFhLCrUNRUfmS-qef-/s200/16144-stock-photo-of-unopened-lily-buds-by-cathy-mckinty.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5465281612679631074" border="0" /></a>n unopened bud breaking the monotony of identical brown 'stickers' once in a very great while?<br />Well, I know the answer, and I will tell you what it is. Being a Lily is not an easy thing. It is easier to be a comfortable worldly Christian (hey, at least thorns are alive to some extent, right?), than to pray and strive towards being completely devoted to Christ.<br /><br />This idea was amazingly summed up by Ian Thomas when he said, "Carnal Christians profess Christ as their Redeemer, but their actions and decisions are for the sake of their own interests and for who they are in themselves rather than for God's interest and for Who He is. Their minds are still the workshops of the devil, for he can persuade countless numbers of professing Christians to try and be Christians without Christ."<br /><br />Do you want me to tell you what being a Lily really looks like in everyday life? It looks like spending time praying and deepening your relationship with God every single day. Treating others (including your family) as better than yourself. Loving your enemies and doing good to those who hate you. Saying no to immodest clothing and indecent behavior. Giving up anything in your life that sows discontentment or resentment or any kind of sin - whether it's movies, tv shows, books, the internet or friends. It means standing up when Jesus Christ is spit upon, not sitting by and hoping that no one notices you. It means helping the helpless, befriending the friendless, giving hope to the hopeless. It means being Jesus' hands, feet, eyes, ears, mouth and heart in this world. It means making Jesus Christ your First Love, letting Him decide what your earthly love story will look like. It means being willing to do anything and everything for Him and through Him. It means experiencing the fruits of the spirit in your life. It means NOT fitting in. It means that you stand out. It means recognizing that you have NO beauty in and of yourself (yeah, try telling that to the pop-Christian culture), but ONLY when the One who is the "perfection of beauty" (Psalm 50) is allowed to shine through you.<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://www.alaska-in-pictures.com/data/media/19/easter-lily_7094.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 154px; height: 231px;" src="http://www.alaska-in-pictures.com/data/media/19/easter-lily_7094.jpg" alt="" border="0" /></a>And that's only the beginning of the list! Sounds exhausting- not to mention <span style="font-style: italic;">impossible</span>- doesn't it?<br /><br />Well, without God it <span style="font-style: italic;">is</span> impossible. You <span style="font-style: italic;">can't</span> do it (yeah, forget about the "you can do anything you want" message- it's a lie). Only Jesus can when you allow Him and ask Him to work through you! And guess what?! When He does the work, you will find more rest and beauty in your life than you ever thought possible. Through Jesus you can become a true Lily, with the beauty and life of our Savior radiating from you. (And by the way, being a true Lily is the only way to attract the right kind of man; who wants to marry someone who is attracted to a thorn?!) A Christ-centered life is the ONLY life worth living.<br /><br />So you know what being a God-centered woman looks like (if not, just read the Bible...), but right now you're a Christian young woman who is tired of trying to look like a thorn (i.e. normal) while wishing to experience the true fulfillment that comes from pouring your life out for Christ.<br /><br />First of all, Jesus is the only one that can put this desire in your heart, so if it is there you can be sure that He will grow you into a true Lily when you ask Him to take your life and do His work through you.<br /><br />Since this blog is about the <span style="font-style: italic;">practical</span> application of Biblical principles, the 2nd part of this will be about a practical way to take the next step towards being a 'Lily among thorns' (or a woman 'after God's own heart')<br /><br />Before I finish, I will give you the first thing to do: Pray and dedicate your life to Christ. Ask Him to take over in every area of your life and to do His work through you.<br />"Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain." Psalm 127:1<br /><br />"A pure heart is one to which all that is not of God is strange and jarring." - John TalverJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-19113315515679728042010-03-19T07:52:00.006-04:002010-03-19T11:19:54.187-04:00Living in Fear of PleasureHave you ever noticed how many devoted Christians seem to live in fear of enjoying anything? Almost as if when they take pleasure in anything they are doing something wrong.<br /><br />I know of so many Christian families who desire to serve the Lord with their whole heart, but they continually walk around with sad, worried faces on as they live with the concern that perhaps they are not pleasing to God.<br />You know what, though? Walking around being controlled by fear <span style="font-style: italic;">isn't</span> pleasing to God! Jesus did not die on the Cross to set us free from the bondage of sin and death, only to intend us to fall right back into another kind of slavery to fear and anxiety.<br />Now I'm not saying that we shouldn't strive to please God, that we shouldn't fear God, or that we shouldn't do our absolute best to follow His Word. But rather that as we go about our daily lives doing all those things, we should make sure to enjoy the wonderful things that God has blessed us with.<br /><br />I created this blog because I noticed that there was a great deal being said about what was the right thing to do, but nothing about the practical aspect of <span style="font-style: italic;">how</span> exactly to do it. I still think that it is an important thing to address, and I plan on continuing to do so. But as we take principles from the Bible and apply them to our lives in this day and age, let's make sure not to impose extra Biblical standards or rules on ourselves or others. Rules like: no wine, no boy/girl friendships, no makeup, no cars, no doing anything outside of the home, no fun... all work to tie us up into a spiritual and emotional bundle of worry and anxiety.<br /><br />Now I understand that some people or families have certain rules that are not specifically listed in the Bible, such as no wine, and I think that it is a wonderful thing that we have the liberty to take the personal convictions that God has given us individually and apply them to our lives. (For instance, a man we know used to be an alcoholic and he was convicted of God and was able to quit. He has decided not to have even a taste of any kind of alcohol because it is too great of a temptation for him.) I think that it shows true maturity to recognize the personal weakness that each of us have, and learn how to fortify ourselves against them.<br /><br />What we need to be careful of is the desire to impose the personal convictions that we have onto other people. (Now I'm not talking about things like not getting drunk; that is something that is clearly talked about in the Bible. Rather I'm talking about things like no wine ever.) It is important to understand that different people have different weaknesses. One man can't even smell wine without putting himself into temptation, and another can enjoy several glasses and not have a problem. One girl might have a problem with romance novels, while another can read one now and then and not have any more of a struggle with her emotions (*I am talking about 'pg' rated books... 'x' rated books are not right for anyone).<br /><br />The Pharisees excelled at creating extra Biblical rules. If you have never done a study on the Pharisees I would recommend doing some research on them. It is very interesting because they were the 'real' religious men of the time. The trouble is that they often would put man made laws on the same level of importance as the Torah. What their man made laws actually did for the most part was to take God's law and say, "If we aren't supposed to work on the Sabbath, than we shouldn't look in a mirror on the Sabbath because we might see a gray hair and pull it out, and thereby work and blaspheme God".<br />In theory, it sounds good to extend the boundaries that God put in place so that we don't ever run a chance of breaking one of His commandments. (One example of this is to take the commandment about extra-marital sex and think that if it's good to have a law against that, it's better to have a rule against pre-marital hand holding. Not a problem if it's a personal conviction, but definitely a problem if you use your own rules as a standard to judge others.)<br /><br />Jesus said "<span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);">Come to Me, all </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);">you</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);"> who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);">is</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);"> easy and My burden is ligh</span>t." Matthew 11:28-30. Romans 8:1-2 says "<span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);">T</span><i style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);">here</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);"> </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);">is</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);"> therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death</span>."<br />The Pharisees, and many Christians today, have simply exchanged the heavy burden of sin for the heavy burden of guilt. It is so sad to see so many Christian girls who seem to still be in spiritual and emotional slavery. This is not of Christ! His burden is light! If you are under a heavy burden, than give it to Jesus and be free. Free from bondage to sin<span style="font-style: italic;"> and</span> guilt, and free to have joy and pleasure in your life.<br /><br />And just because your family has certain rules that you have to follow doesn't mean that you can't be free. As long as you live in your father's household you must obey the rules of the house that are not specifically against God's Word. What I'm talking about is less of a physical action, and more of a spiritual and emotional struggle.<br /><br />God created good things for us to enjoy as we follow His Word. Ecclesiastes 9:7-10a says "<span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);">Go, eat your bread with joy, and drink your wine with a merry heart; for God has already accepted your works. Let your garments always be white, and let your head lack no oil. Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);">is</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);"> your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform under the sun. Whatever your hand finds to do, do </span><i style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);">it</i><span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 204);"> with your might...</span>"<br /><br />So don't forget to enjoy the beautiful and wonderful things that God has given us today! If you are interested in reading more about this, I would recommend reading the book of Romans, which is one of my favorite books of the Bible. If this subject is something that you struggle with than you will find it (and especially chapter 8) extremely helpful. :-)Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-51095349242094994512010-02-22T14:15:00.002-05:002010-02-22T14:17:23.135-05:00CommentsJust a quick note to say please do not click on any links in my comments section. I seem to be having trouble with people posting very inappropriate links. I have reported the blogger that keeps doing this, but if anyone has any ideas of how to stop them from doing this I would really appreciate it. Thanks! :-)Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-45174952632757761442010-02-16T14:31:00.003-05:002010-02-16T15:57:43.083-05:00Compromises"I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, <i>which is</i> your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what <i>is</i> that good and acceptable and perfect will of God." Romans 12:1-3<br /><br />"Do not be deceived: 'Evil company corrupts good habits'." 1 Corinthians 15:33<br /><br /> It was so wonderful when we dedicated our lives to Christ, wasn't it? It was exciting when we began to have different beliefs fall in place: baptism, gender rolls, modesty, like-minded friends, Bible believing church... we were enthusiastic and ready to 'do it'.<br /> If only we could have held on to that enthusiasm and energy forever! Instead we suddenly wake up one day to realize that we have compromised little by little until we have no idea how to get back on track short of starting completely over again (which, let's be honest, is not going to happen).<br /><br />So what should we do when we find that we are most definitely being conformed to this world, and we doubt that the transformation we have undergone has had anything to do with the renewing of our mind?<br /><br /> Well, the obvious answer is to change and to get back to living the way that God wants us to. But the next question is not quite so easy to answer. How? How do we get from the state that we have discovered ourselves to be in to living like Jesus wants us to? Here are a few ideas...<br /><br /><br />1. Pray about it. I probably have said this in just about every post on this blog, but that doesn't make it any less true. Prayer is an amazing thing, it is the way God has given us to talk to Him!<br /><br /><br />2. Read your Bible. Sit down and look at your schedule and try to find ten minutes that you can set aside just to read your Bible. If you honestly can't think of when to have it, put a Bible in your bathroom and read as much as you can in the time you spend in there in the morning and evening. (There, *cough cough* was that practical enough?) Start in Genesis (or Matthew if you prefer), and just read through. But don't just do that 'open to a random spot and read a verse' thing... that's only allowed once in a while. ;-)<br /><br /><br />3. Look at your friends and who you are spending the most time with. Are they a godly influence in your life? Do they encourage you to follow Jesus with your whole heart, mind, soul and strength? Friends have a huge influence on our lives, but it's not always that obvious. I believe that you should not have any <span style="font-style: italic;">close</span> non-Christian friends (or close Christian friends who are living in sin). That does NOT mean that you should suddenly cut them completely out of your life or that you should tell them that you can't be friends anymore because as of right now they're going to hell. What this does mean is that if you find yourself becoming too close to a non-Christian, you should begin to extract yourself little by little until you are more like friendly acquaintances than best friends. Now every circumstance is different, but here are a few ideas to get you started.<br /><br /> a. If they are internet friends, stop replying to their e-mails every day. Just back off a bit and only e-mail them once a week. If they ask you what's up, tell them that you are busy and are trying not to spend so much time on the computer (or whatever is true for you). Do NOT tell them that you don't want to be best friends anymore. That is not kind and is unnecessary. (One trouble with many people these days is that they think that if you don't tell the entire truth you are lying. While I am not suggesting that you lie, I <span style="font-style: italic;">am</span> suggesting that you be tactful and kind. If you saw a friend and instantly noticed that they were wearing a shirt that clashed with their pants, you do not have to tell them, right?)<br /><br />b. If they are friends that you see in person, stop spending so much free time with them. Simply find something else to do most of the time (maybe read your Bible). ;-)<br /><br />c. <span style="font-style: italic;">Be nice to them</span>, but <span style="font-style: italic;">don't invest yourself </span>in them. Instead do your best to find solid Christian friends to invest your time in. (And they don't have to be perfect, no one is, but they should be doing their best to live in line with God's word.)<br /><br /><br />4. Find a good church. You can always find one if you look hard enough. And you don't necessarily have to agree with everything they preach. As long as they don't teach things that are against the Bible. (For instance, even if you believed in paedobaptism, you could go some where that taught believers baptism -that's called Christian liberty-, but you wouldn't go somewhere that preached that abortion is right.) However, it is important that they teach the Bible.<br /><br /><br />5. Set godly and realistic goals such as reading a chapter of the Bible every day, going to church once a week, not entertaining <a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2008/02/mental-romance.html">impure thoughts or crushes</a>, or whatever God has convicted you about.<br /><br /><br />6. Find someone to be accountable to. Now this could be your Mom, or it could be a Christian friend. Explain to them the goals that you would like to be accountable for, and ask them to check with you on a regular basis, at least once a week, to see how you are doing.<br /><br /><br />7. If you realize that you are spending a lot of your time somewhere (workplace, school, sports) with people who are ungodly, and God shows you that you are only going to continue falling further away from Him if you stay in that place, than you need to leave. Now I understand that would be incredibly difficult, and that is something that only God could tell you if it is necessary, but if He does tell you to quit, that is exactly what you need to do. As long as you are following His will, He will take care of you.<br /><br /><br />8. Choose your hill to die on. Don't make every little thing a matter of life or death. And don't try to change everything at once, that will only leave you discouraged.<br /><br /><br />9. Be a witness by living your life the way you should. Do <span style="font-style: italic;">not</span> take your conviction and try to force it on all of your friends (Christian or not). <span style="font-style: italic;">Do</span> pray for them. And don't mistake picking on them for being a good witness (if your friend has tattoos, it won't do either of you any good if you start going on about what the Bible says about it. That will only make it so that they are less likely to listen to you).<br /><br /><br />Before I close, I would like to respond specifically to the anonymous comment I received a few days ago (remember, if you want me to respond to you personally, I do need your blog or e-mail address)...<br /><br />"Joy,<br /><br />I feel stuck and I would love your help!<br /><br />I am a 19-year-old daughter of wonderful parents, but they have supported me to follow the world's cookie cutout for life; public school, and now I find myself at a huge secular university. I believe God wants me here now, and I have tried to live out my faith here, but tonight I was convicted of subtle compromises I have made without even realizing it. I find myself the somewhat close friend of a gay man, crushing on men when I shouldn't be, and surrounded by so much worldliness that I forget about God. I am not joining these people but not standing against/reaching out to them either. I want God to reign more in my life, but it feels like swimming upstream at a secular university (to be expected) and I don't know where to start. Specifically, how do I behave with non-christian friends (who I have inevitably made here)? Or even friends who are christian but have compromised like I have? How do I tell them I want to change, that I need to take God more seriously in everything that I do? I mean, if I were at home, it would be so much easier to live my faith, serving my parents and family; it is my comfort zone. But here, God's law is turned upside down. I have been praying about it, and I would love your thoughts!"<br /><br /><br />Dear friend,<br /> I hope that the ideas that I have given here have been helpful to you. If you still have questions, please feel free to ask. I know that you are trying to do something that is extremely difficult, and only God can tell you what specifically you should do in your situation. I will be praying for you, that God would give you wisdom and courage to do His will, that He would show you what is and is not important, and that you would be encouraged and find Christian friends who will encourage you do to His will.<br /> May God bless you!<br />JoyJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-49828287447058198292009-12-01T10:00:00.004-05:002009-12-01T11:34:29.649-05:00PTGW Part Nine: Learning to Have a Joyful Spirit"Glory in His holy name; Let the hearts of those rejoice who seek the LORD!" 1 Chronicles 16:10<br />"Do not sorrow, for the joy of the LORD is your strength." Nehemiah 8:10<span style="font-size:78%;">b</span><br />"Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!" Philippians 4:4<br /><br /> Lately I have been realizing how important it is to enjoy your life, and to rejoice in the Lord. Now this does not mean that we have to ignore anything uncomfortable or bad that happens, or that we have to walk around with plastic smiles on our faces all the time. What is does mean is that we need to find our joy in the Lord, and not have it be dependent on silly things (like whether it is sunny or cloudy, whether someone in our family has a bad attitude or not, etc). Right now I'm not going to talk about big things that happen (like a death in the family, or a debilitating physical problem) or how to deal with them, but instead I will be concentrating on a few ideas of how we can encourage ourselves to enjoy life, in spite of the little annoyances that can so often steal our joy.<br /> Now before I begin, let me say that out of all of the things that I have heard men say are attractive in a woman, the most common and prevalent thing by far is a joyful spirit. A genuine enjoyment of life in Jesus. A smile and a joyful attitude can make even a very plain woman extremely attractive and beautiful. And we need to start by blessing our families with a joyful spirit.<br /> So here are a few ideas of how to get and keep a joyful attitude.<br /><br />1. Pray that God would give you a Joyful Spirit. This is obviously the most important thing. Without His help, none of us are very nice to be around. ;-)<br /><br />2. One idea is to make yourself something to remind you to be cheerful. I often find that when I am not cheerful, it is because I simply forget to work on it. (I know, "I forgot" is the worst excuse ever, but sometimes you really do forget, and it can be helpful just to be reminded.) One thing that I did was that I made up a little piece of paper that I kept in my pocket to remind me to have a joyful spirit. Believe it or not, it REALLY helped! Of course, most dresses don't have pockets, so you can make a bracelet or necklace or something instead.<br /><br />3. Deal with little annoyances as they come up. Don't let things build up inside of you. One of the worst things in a wife or sister is the tendency to let little things build up, build up, build up and then suddenly explode in a yelling or screaming fit. But you can avoid this if you pray about things as they happen, forgive people as they hurt you, breathe deeply and release your tension. Remember and put into practice Philippians 4:6-7 (my favorite verses) "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."<br /><br />4. It is ok to pretend to be cheerful even if you don't always feel like it. Now this doesn't mean fake smile, thinly veiled annoyance... and it is not an excuse not to deal with things that are bothering you. What it does mean is that you should answer your mother cheerfully when she asks you to do something, even if you are growling inside (and then you should pray about that 'growly-ness'). It also means that you do not have to burden your family with every moment that you are 'out of sorts'. Just smile. Practice makes perfect. :-)<br /><br />5. If you find yourself having a particularly hard time, take a moment to pray, breathe, and maybe make a little list of things that you are thankful for. (This can be especially helpful if you are having trouble with one particular person. Make a list of things you are thankful for about them... and then give it to them if you'd like! For example... my brother, who is nearest to the water jug at supper, cheerfully fills everyone's glasses all throughout supper without complaining. that is something I am really thankful for about him. My sister cleans and vacuumes every single day, and really blesses our family with a clean house. My other sister is always ready with a hug and a kiss if someone is having a hard day. She can spot a tear from a mile away and comes running to help that person feel better. Pray before you make the list, because when you are having a difficult time with someone, it is extremely easy to only see their faults, and there are plenty of faults if you look hard enough, and it takes Jesus to help you be able to see the beautiful ways that they bless you.)<br /><br />6. Don't focus on the negative. My Mom says that there are always two ways to look at something. If there is a pile of dirty dishes in the sink, you can look and see how people never clean up after themselves, or you can thank God that you have food to eat and a family to share it with.<br /><br />7. Go for a walk. This will help you get your blood flowing and help you feel awake and more cheerful.<br /><br />8. Avoid or limit sugar... (I'm sorry, people say that I bring nutrition into everything, but it is true, what you eat really does effect you.) Sugar makes people irritable, and that is something we want to avoid. :-)<br /><br />9. Go to bed at a reasonable hour. I am a firm believer in getting enough sleep for helping with an attitude that is not always the best.<br /><br />10. Do fun things that you enjoy. Don't let yourself just work all the time (I am not a believer in 'I need me time', but I do think that doing fun things is a good idea). And don't fool yourself into thinking that if something is going to be fun it has to be big or expensive. Paint your nails with your little sister (or by yourself). Have a tea party. Dress up. Turn on some music and dance. Sing while you work. Brainstorm things that you like to do, make a list, and then DO THEM!!! :-)<br /><br />11. Help someone else. I often find that nothing helps me more than doing something kind for someone else.<br /><br />12. Read your bible. (Hey, and while you're at it, take a look in Proverbs and see how many times it talks about how Unattractive the Opposite of a joyful spirit is... for starters take a look at Proverbs 21:9, 21:19, 25:24, and 27:15.) :-)<br /><br /> Well, I hope that this has been helpful to you. Remember, no one wants to be around someone who is crabby or irritated all the time. Being joyful will help you to have better friendships, relationships, and a better life. You will find that you enjoy life more, and that others enjoy you more.<br /> As always, if anyone has anything to add to this, I would love to hear it! :-)Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-45484012104034974952009-11-02T11:05:00.002-05:002009-11-02T12:00:00.152-05:00Keeping Sight of the Goal"Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares <i>us,</i> and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of <i>our</i> faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God." Hebrews 12:1-2<br /><br />"Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may obtain <i>it.</i> And everyone who competes <i>for the prize</i> is temperate in all things. Now they <i>do it</i> to obtain a perishable crown, but we <i>for</i> an imperishable <i>crown.</i>" 1 Corinthians 9:24-25<br /><br />"Therefore we also pray always for you that our God would count you worthy of <i>this</i> calling, and fulfill all the good pleasure of <i>His</i> goodness and the work of faith with power, that the name of our Lord Jesus Christ may be glorified in you, and you in Him, according to the grace of our God and the Lord Jesus Christ." 2 Thessalonians 1:11-12<br /><br /><p>"Question 1: What is the chief and highest end of man?</p><p>Answer: Man's chief and highest end is to glorify God, and fully to enjoy him forever." The Westminster Larger Catechism</p>"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." Matthew 6:33<p><br /></p><p>Today I would like to remind all of us what the goal is that we are working towards.</p><p>It's not getting married. It's not to have children one day. It's not to be organized, or anything like that<br /></p> Our goal is to seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness. To glorify God with our lives. To have a godly Character that Jesus Christ can shine through to others in our life.<br /><br /> All of the other things that "shall be added unto you" are just 'icing on the cake' so to speak. Certainly they are worthy things to hope for and work towards, but when our eyes are focused on God we do not have room for the discontentment and discouragement that can come over us when we are too focused on the OUR hopes, OUR dreams, OUR goals.<br /> Now I'm not saying that all of the things that I've written on this blog are not important... I believe that they are, but they are just a step towards glorifying Him, they are not the goal.<br /> And as we do seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, all of the other things really will be added to us. God is the one who gives us the fruit of the Spirit, so let's remember to keep our eyes on Him and our lives focused on glorifying Him.Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-45340713405324836362009-10-15T10:54:00.004-04:002009-10-15T11:11:13.733-04:00Crushes on Unavailable Men"<span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 102);">I know this sounds REALLY bad but what if the guy you have a crush on is married and was someone you once dated. What if you ask God to take the feelings away and they still don't go away???? Please help!!! </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 102);">Worried,</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 102);">Anonymous</span>"<br /><br />Dear Anonymous,<br />I know that it's easy to get freaked out when you have strong feelings and they just won't 'go away'. Believe it or not, at one point in time most young ladies will have a crush on someone who is unavailable. Whether he's courting, engaged, or married to someone else, it is hard to deal with feelings for someone that you know you shouldn't be having feelings for. Dating aggravates this problem as it encourages you to form attachments to people that, odds are, you won't spend the rest of your life with.<br />But the principles are the same no matter the situation or the circumstances.<br />Now, here are a few ideas for you, ok?<br /><br />1. Whenever you get a thought about him, or warm fuzzies about him, or anything, pray. And don't just pray about him, because that will just continue to train your brain to think about him. Try something like this. "Lord, I know that So-and-so is married, but I still have a crush on him. Please take away those feelings and help me to reserve my heart for my future husband. I pray that You would prepare me to be a good wife someday, and help me to practice guarding my heart now in preparation for the day that I am married myself. I also pray for my grandma, please heal her arthritis because it is so hard on her not to be able to walk around. Please give me wisdom of how I can bless her and make things easier on her. Thank you, in Jesus' name I pray. Amen."<br /><br />2. "Take every thought captive and make it obedient unto Christ." Don't allow yourself to daydream or anything. Here is one way that you can 'take every thought captive'. Picture your mind as an airport, and the thoughs as airplanes that are trying to land. When one comes zooming up that you don't want in your mind, send it off. For the first week (or probably month) you will probably have to do this over 100 times a day, but it does get easier and less frequent when you practice.<br /><br /> Well my dear, I hope that is helpful to you. Keep reading your Bible and training your mind to think of things the way Jesus would want you to. And don't worry about your crush too much, as long as you continue to pray about it, I'm sure that God will help you with it so gradually that you won't even notice it's gone. :-)<br /><br />*hugs*<br />Joy<br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"></span>Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-30490288199508828172009-08-25T07:12:00.003-04:002009-08-25T08:20:16.437-04:00PTGW Part Eight B: Taking Care of Your SoulNote: <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Thank you to everyone who commented! It is good to know that people read this blog because I was thinking of not continuing it, but I'm glad that I am going to continue writing for this blog because I think it helps me more than anyone else. ;-)</span><br /><br /> Alright, today I'm going to be talking about taking care of your soul, though maybe not in the way that you're thinking.<br /> Now first of all, what is a soul? Well, I'm NOT going to go into what the Greek and Hebrew words mean, because this is not that kind of a blog. (If you want to find out, you could probably just google it.) But if we look at the Bible, we see that the word soul used in a variety of ways (Just get out your concordance and look up the word soul). But most often it seems to be used to convey the core of our being.<br /> Now, God is the only One who can save our soul, but after He redeems us, how can we take care of our soul?<br /> Well, a great part of that is what we do, see, watch, listen to etc. Because even though we have a soul, heart, mind, body... we are still just one person and everything affects each other.<br /> I don't know about you, but I can tell when I'm not taking care of my soul, mind, and heart because I start feeling 'cluttered', anxious, and disturbed.<br /> So what can we do to upkeep that part of us?<br /><br />1. Pray. Prayer is amazing. We are able to speak to God and He hears us! (One particularly helpful verse on prayer is Philippians 4:6-7 "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.") And make sure that you really do pray specifically about what is bothering you and then give it to Jesus and LEAVE IT WITH HIM!!! Don't take it back. And if you start worrying about it again, pray again and give it to Him again. Praying scripture is a great help (e.g. "Lord, please help me to think about whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right....")<br /><br />2. Read your Bible everyday. I like to read mine in the morning first thing, and last thing before bed. Pray that the Holy Spirit would show you what needs to change in your heart every time before you read and when He shows you, repent of it and confess it to God. This can remove a lot of that cluttered feeling. The more you read your Bible, the more it will train your mind to see everything in the light of the scripture.<br /><br />3. Sing scripture songs (that actually use Scripture) and hymns. I love the Hide 'em in Your Heart songs for scripture songs. As for hymns, I'm not talking about 'worship songs'. I'm talking about good, old fashioned hymns. Even though his theology was a bit off, a lot of Charles Wesley's hymns are really wonderful. One of my favorites is "And Can it be That I Should Gain" (I like to sing that while I'm washing dishes... just because it's hard to sing while you're breathless from vacuuming). :-)<br /><br /> Ok, now are you ready for a little list of don'ts?<br /><br />4. Don't spend too much time watching movies. They just add to the clutteredness, and they can really make you feel disturbed and anxious.<br /><br />5. Don't spend too much time listening to secular music. (Now I'm not saying that you can't ever listen to secular music, but make sure that you limit the time you devote to it.)<br /><br />6. Don't read romance novels. These sow discontentment and most teach you that the outward appearance is all that matters (that goes for romance movies too).<br /><br /> Now, one thing that I would like to challenge you to do is a fast. This is a mind and heart fast to get you out of the cluttered state and into a peaceful one. Here is what the fast looks like:<br /> For one week you give up entertainment (this includes movies, YouTube videos, and books), secular music, video games, and thoughts that are not glorifying to Jesus (for instance, hateful thoughts, lusting thoughts, and coveting thoughts).<br /> Ok? So now you've removed those things from your life, something has to take their place, right? Of course right! ;-)<br /> So what is going to take their place? Prayer, Bible reading, and hymns. Read your Bible first thing in the morning, right before bed (about a chapter each time), and then whenever you would normally read a book go ahead and read your Bible. Pray in the morning when you read your Bible (Just to let you know, you don't have to do this alone, if you have little kids you can read your Bible outloud and pray with them), at night before bed, whenever you have a thought that is not glorifying to Jesus, and whenever the rest of your family is watching a movie or something use that time for prayer as well. Instead of listening to secular music while you work or just to kill time, sing hymns and scripture songs. I don't know about you, but I'd much rather hear "And Can It Be" than "Man, I Feel Like a Woman". ;-)<br /> At the beginning of the week pray and ask God to show you areas in your life that are not submitted to Him or are against His word, and when He shows you focus on praying about those things throughout the week.<br /> When you pray don't just pray for yourself, make sure that you pray for others as well.<br /><br />Now of course, you can modify this fast to fit your needs. The first time I did it I also did a sugar fast because I wanted to make sure that I didn't turn to food when i was bored. The second time I did it, I only did a movie fast and I allowed myself to listen to secular music if I wanted to (though that time didn't have the same effect as when I did the whole fast because I still had entertainment). But you can also do an internet fast, a dessert fast, etc.<br /><br /> If you do it, make sure to come and let me know how it went for you. :-)<br /><br /> Now obviously, no matter what we do God is the One who "restores my soul". So during the fast pray that He would restore your soul.<br /><br /> To end with here is Psalm 23.<br /> "The LORD <i>is</i> my shepherd;<br /> I shall not want.<br /> He makes me to lie down in green pastures;<br /> He leads me beside the still waters.<br /> He restores my soul;<br /> He leads me in the paths of righteousness <br /> For His name’s sake. <br /> <br /> Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,<br /> I will fear no evil; <br /> For You <i>are</i> with me; <br /> Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. <br /> <br /> You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;<br /> You anoint my head with oil; <br /> My cup runs over.<br /> Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me<br /> All the days of my life; <br /> And I will dwell in the house of the LORD <br /> Forever."Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-47307173356246870872009-08-21T07:25:00.005-04:002009-08-21T08:21:21.652-04:00PTGW Part Eight A: Taking Care of Your BodyDon't give up on this post after just reading the title! I know that most of the time it is very discouraging to read anything about taking care of your body, whether it be losing weight or skin care or makeup or whatever. But I'm not going to present some impossible idea of how to change your appearance. Rather I'd like to give you a few <span style="font-style: italic;">realistic </span>ideas of how to take care of your body.<br /><br /> Taking care of your body and your appearance is very important; it is part of being a good witness for Jesus Christ. That doesn't mean that you should spend three hours a day on your appearance, but it does mean that you should remember that even though God looks at your heart, people will see your appearance first. (But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For <i>the LORD does</i> not <i>see</i> as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart." 1 Samuel 16:7 - yes, I know it's out of context, but it's still true)<br /> God can work through everyone no matter how they look or smell or whatever, but if my dad gave me a beautiful dress to wear and I wore it every day and didn't wash it and it got all grey and dirty and I told everyone that my Dad had given it to me, well... that wouldn't make them think very well of my Dad, would it? "Oh my goodness! I'm sure glad I'm not his daughter! Look at what she wears... she doesn't even look clean!"<br /> We should be so proud of being God's daughters that we want to give Him a 'good name' by looking like what we are... taken care of and loved very very much.<br /><br /> Also, when you get married your husband is going to want to be proud of your appearance. So start on good habits now so that when you get married you'll have a head start.<br /><br /> Now here are a few things that I'm NOT saying.<br /><br />1. I'm NOT saying that you should lose weight<br /><br />2. I'm NOT saying that you have to wear makeup<br /><br />3. I'm NOT saying that you should obsess about how you look and constantly be running to the mirror<br /><br />4. I'm NOT saying that you need to be self conscious if your clothes aren't brand-new<br /><br /> Ok? Now that we've gotten that straightened out... here are a few ideas of how to take care of your body.<br /><br />1. Stay clean. This means taking a shower when you need it. Some people can get away with one a week and some people need one a day. A good way to tell if you need one is if you don't smell fresh or your hair feels stiff and greasy. Simply staying clean is an excellent place to start on having a good appearance.<br /><br />2. Get dressed in the morning. Don't go to the grocery store in your pjs and slippers. Aside from modesty issues, is life as a Christian really so depressing that you can't bear to get ready for the day???<br /><br />3. Do your hair. I know, it's basic, but it's important to have your hair look neat and tidy. Now I can't brush my hair when it's dry because it's so curly that it would just frizz and I'd end up looking something like Ronald MacDonald. ;-) But on days that I don't get my hair wet, I still smooth it and put it up in a bun.<br /><br />4. Drink water. Drinking water can help you to have nice skin, give you energy, and help you not to smell bad when you 'perspire'.<br /><br />5. Go for a walk or a bikeride OUTSIDE every day if you can. It doesn't have to be long, I like walking a quarter mile most days. This will get your blood flowing nicely, give you a chance to be peaceful (no listening to music), and help you be more energetic.<br /><br />6. Make sure that your clothes are always clean, patched, and wrinkle-free. It doesn't matter if your clothes aren't new, you can look just as nice in 2nd (or 3rd or 4th) hand clothes as in brand-new clothes as long as they are pressed and clean.<br /><br />7. Take care of your teeth. Now I'm not saying that you need to get braces, teeth whiteners, etc. But if you take care of your teeth (brushing and flossing every day) your teeth will look nice and you won't have to worry as much about bad breath.<br /><br />8. Practice good posture. Stand up straight! You are proud of your Father, now walk like it!<br /><br />9. Wear a Smile! That is a very important thing that you can do for your appearance. If you have a smile it won't matter if your teeth are crooked, your clothes old, or your hair is frizzy! Smiling is a very easy and simple way to look pretty and bless people.<br /><br />10. Dress like a Lady. (I assume that no men are reading this, but if they are they should dress like Gentlemen, not Ladies.) ;-) Don't look as if you are ashamed of your gender. It is so refreshing to see a woman who isn't hiding under baggy pants and t-shirts and yet is not flaunting her body in mini-skirts and tight shirts.<br /><br />11. Do the things that God tells us to in His Word. This is THE MOST important thing of all. If you live a clean life through Jesus, than others will have a 'good feeling' about you. I don't know why, but that seems to be the way it works. :-)<br /><br /> Now if you want to you can do other things like put on a little bit of makeup etc. But the most important thing is to be clean and neat, and to smile.<br /> I don't know about you, but when I see someone who doesn't really take care of themselves I think "Oh dear, they must be quite unhappy with their life."<br /> As Christians, we have been blessed with a Father who cares for us no matter what happens. Let's show the world how much we appreciate Him by taking care of His temple (our bodies).<br /><br /> "Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit <i>who is</i> in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s." 1 Corinthians 6:19-20<br /><br /> Next time I'll be talking about taking care of your soul (which is infinitely more important than your body). As usual, I love getting comments (as long as they're polite). I have no idea if anyone reads my posts unless they comment.Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-73061951462992988522009-07-17T06:40:00.005-04:002009-07-17T07:44:15.358-04:00PTGW Part Seven: Learning to EncourageEncouragement is so important, isn't it? It's amazing what a difference an encouraging word can make in someone's life. And it doesn't always have to be words, I know that there have been different people who have encouraged me with something as simple as a hug or a smile.<br />One of my favorite "Hide 'Em in Your Heart" songs is based on 1 Thessalonians 5:11 NIV ("Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing").<br />But encouraging someone isn't always as simple as smiling at them, is it? Sometimes it means getting out of our comfort zone and risking rejection or embarrassment (even though not many people reject encouragement, we can sometimes still feel like they will). Unfortunately, I don't know any way of getting over the awkward feeling of stepping out of our comfort zones except to do it over and over. I have to confess that I'm not very good at this, but "practice makes perfect", and I'm going to give you a few ideas on how to 'practice' starting with the least awkward. :-)<br /><br />1. Smile at people! You might be amazed at how attractive and uplifting a smile is. If you've ever smiled at someone and not had them respond, you know that it's always a bit of a let down when you don't get a smile back. I've had bad days where I went to the store and a total stranger smiled at me and it really did make my day better. :-)<br /><br />2. Serve people. Now I'm not necessarily talking about painting someone's house or doing their laundry. Simply getting someone a glass of water or helping them cut up vegetables for lunch can encourage them.<br /><br />3. Give a hug! A hug is a very efficient and simple way to encourage someone without words. Sometimes you might find that someone gets tears in their eyes when you hug them and, assuming that you weren't just squeezing them too hard, that's a sure sign that they really needed that hug. (Now, obviously there are people that you wouldn't feel comfortable hugging, and that's fine. You should never hug anyone that you feel creeped out by, and probably you would only want to hug your friends and family anyways.)<br /><br />4. Write a note or send an e-card to someone telling them that you are glad that you are friends (or sisters, or cousins, or whatever), and say something that you specifically like about them. (i.e. "Dear Martha, I am so glad that we are friends. Your patience with the little children really challenges and encourages me to be more patient. Thank you so much for your example! Love, Joy" ~ of course you're supposed to insert your friend's name and your name in the place of "Martha" and Joy! ~)<br /><br />5. Listen to them. Simply listening can make a huge difference to someone and be very encouraging.<br /><br />6. Tell someone something that you like about them ("I love the way you reply to letters so quickly").<br /><br />7. Encourage them in the area that they really need it. This can be a little more tricky because, unless they have specifically confided in you, they might feel as though you are picking on them instead of encouraging them. Even if they have confided in you, sometimes this idea backfires and they get upset so use at your own discretion.<br /><br />When you are a wife, you will be your husband's main encourager and 'cheerleader' (can anyone think of a better word than 'cheerleader'?), so if you can practice encouraging and cheering on your family, friends, ect. now, you will have a head start on knowing how to do it when you get married.<br />There are many ways that you can encourage people, and some of them are as simple as doing the job your Mom asked you to the FIRST time she asks. Use your imagination and encourage people in your everyday life. (On a side note, did you know that simply living a Christian life can encourage others?)Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-61210155967160663222009-07-06T09:11:00.006-04:002009-07-06T10:15:36.144-04:00PTGW Part Six: Learning to Follow a RoutineAfter a very long break due to sickness, I am excited to finally be continuing my "<a href="http://practicalpurity.blogspot.com/2008/09/preparing-to-be-good-wife-introduction.html">Preparing to be a Good Wife</a>" posts.<br />Today we will be talking about learning to follow a routine. Now I'm not talking about following your Mom's routine, although it is important that you work around her routine, I'm talking more about making sure that your day is not wasted because you never know what you are supposed to be doing. This may not be a problem for some of you (isn't it wonderful how God made everyone different?), but hopefully it'll be helpful anyways.<br /><br />When we are younger it is not as important to have our own routine, is it? We get up, eat breakfast, do school work, have lunch, more school, free time, supper, family time, bed. And that's basically what each day looks like. But when we have 'graduated' it's a little harder to arrange our time.<br />Of course, in some ways it is easier because it's more up to us, but somehow it just seemed less complicated when we knew that we had to do math at 9:00, history at 10:00 etc. Now suddenly you don't have a set thing that you have to do at 9:00, instead you have a list of what you need to accomplish during the day.<br />Now I don't know about you, but it was not helpful for me to have a list of things to do without a set time or order to do them in. Sure, I would get things done, but when I was cleaning the livingroom I'd be remembering the laundry, when I was doing the laundry I'd be worried that I'd forget to make bread, when I was making bread... (You get the idea!)<br />It is hard to be peaceful and to enjoy life when you're frantically trying not to forget something.<br />Here are a few ideas of how to get your day in order.<br /><br />1. Make a list of basic things you want to accomplish each day, and include even the simplest things. (e.g. Breakfast, Get dressed, Pick up room, Lunch...)<br /><br />2. Next make another list of things that only have to be done every other day (perhaps washing your hair or working out).<br /><br />3. Then make a list of the work things that have to be done each day (vacuuming, washing dishes, laundry, etc).<br /><br />4. Next make a list of things that you would like to have time for. Things like sewing, writing, e-mailing, and reading.<br /><br />5. Now make a chart. It's a little hard to explain so I'll show you an example one. It's kind of a rough draft that I made. :-)<br /><br /> ~~~~~~Monday ~~ Tuesday ~~ Wednesday ~~ Thursday ~~ Friday<br />Breakfast <br />Shower<br />Get Dressed<br />Room Clean Up – 5 Min<br />Exercise – 45 Min<br />Course work – 1 Hour<br />Music – 30 Min<br />Social – 30 Min<br />~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<br />Science (With Kids)<br />Bible Study (With Mom)<br />Lunch<br />Home Improvement<br />Supper Prep<br />Supper<br /><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">*Monday – Weight Lift Arms ~ Course Project Work ~ Piano ~ E-mails ~ Sewing<br />Tuesday – Weight Lift Legs ~ Course Book Work ~ Guitar ~ Blogs ~ Topical Bible Study<br />Wednesday – Weight Lift Arms ~ Course Forum ~ Piano ~ Stand-Up-Girl ~ Cooking<br />Thursday– Weight Lift Legs ~ Course Project ~ Guitar ~ Letters ~ Topical Bible Study</span><br /><br />* <span style="font-size:78%;">The reason I have a list down here is so that I know which particular thing belonging to the general category of, let's say, social time, I'm supposed to do. On Monday my social time involves e-mails, on Tuesday it involves blogs, on Wednesday the forum that I volunteer on, on Thursday letters. Friday is our family day, so I do not have it listed.</span><br /><br />Now obviously, your routine, or schedule, is going to look different from mine. Perhaps you'd like to have times listed instead of the number of minutes. (e.g. 9:00 - 9:30 instead of 30 minutes.) Because my day is very much centered around what my family has to do, I use this routine as kind of a guideline and I do not put down exact times because if my sister makes us breakfast and it isn't done until 10:00, I'm still not behind because while she is making it I can get ready for the day without feeling like my whole day is going to be messed up.<br /><br />I like to have little boxes under each day and across from each task so that I can check them off when I'm done. It gives me a chance to see what I've accomplished and makes sure that I don't waste my day or forget something that I have to do. Since I only use it as a guide line, I can insert other activities (such as gardening) whenever I want, or I can do it instead of working on my Nutrition course.<br /><br />Learning to follow a routine can help you to be peaceful, to have a sense of accomplishment, and to get more things done without feeling frazzled. If you can learn how to use your time wisely and efficiently now, it will be an invaluable skill when you are a wife and a mother. :-)Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-27935192171554251062009-07-02T07:41:00.008-04:002009-07-02T15:13:02.458-04:00One Lovely Blog AwardThank you so much to Mrs. Dixon (who has a lovely blog herself) at<a href="http://trainingdaughtersteachingwives.com/"> http://trainingdaughtersteachingwives.com</a> for the One Lovely Blog Award!<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMemSH0pUSiLBUraPCu9CMaCTuYW8rwv9J1zLP7X7bdfodOg-nc6daFQYuqRgY16WZcEA9KwGWHLqa9emXV8F4dMX532ht3Dti57gjcKnx5_13SGnCD33DY-AonV2p-fFY8BV5aja6oVU5/s1600-h/lovely-blog-award.png"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 184px; height: 184px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMemSH0pUSiLBUraPCu9CMaCTuYW8rwv9J1zLP7X7bdfodOg-nc6daFQYuqRgY16WZcEA9KwGWHLqa9emXV8F4dMX532ht3Dti57gjcKnx5_13SGnCD33DY-AonV2p-fFY8BV5aja6oVU5/s200/lovely-blog-award.png" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5353827576604822274" border="0" /></a>I just love this graphic... the teacup is so pretty!<br /><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">Here are the rules:<br />1) Accept the award, post it on your blog together with the name of the person who has granted the award, and his or her blog link.<br />2) Pass the award to 15 other blogs that you’ve newly discovered. Remember to contact the bloggers to let them know they have been chosen for this award.</span><br /><br />Ok, well, I don't know if I can come up with 15 newly discovered blogs, so I'll just pick a few.*<br /><br />Amanda at <a href="http://amandabethonline.blogspot.com/">amandabethonline.blogspot.com</a> - I love her fun fashion reviews and suggestions<br /><br />Miss Amy and Miss Olivia Joy at<a href="http://teatimewithamy.blogspot.com/"> http://teatimewithamy.blogspot.com/</a> - Even though they only update once in a while, their blog is a pleasure to read and to look at and they have some really neat ideas and recipes for Tea<br /><br />HannahBeth at<a href="http://homeschoolblogger.com/maideninwaiting"> </a><a href="http://homeschoolblogger.com/maideninwaiting">www.homeschoolblogger.com/maideninwaiting</a> - I enjoyed seeing her entries for AmandaBeth's fashion week, and I just love seeing all the pictures she puts up of her family.<br /><br />Well, I'm going to stick with three, even though I have found so many wonderful blogs over the past couple of years. Why don't you go and check out their blogs and maybe leave them a comment? I'm sure they'd love to hear from you!<br /> My sister and I are struggling with sickness so I shall go inform the authors of the lovely blogs that they have been awarded, and then go rest for a while.<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-size:78%;">*Just because their name appears in this post does not mean that I necessarily agree with everything on their blog. It does mean that I think their blog is lovely and I enjoy reading it.</span>Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-79276233716343100092009-05-01T07:07:00.006-04:002009-05-01T08:20:33.873-04:00"In God I Have Put My Trust... What Can Man do to Me?""Jill looked at the king: his mouth was open and his face was full of horror. And then she understood the devilish cunning of the enemies' plan. By mixing a little truth with it they had made their lie far stronger." C.S. Lewis "The Last Battle"<br /><br />This seems to be the truth in America today. Christians, Bible-believing Christians, and especially homeschoolers, are targeted by the world. Feminists claim that Homeschooling Christians leave women "barefoot, pregnant, and powerless". Politicians publish the 'fact' that Homeschooling Christians are bad for the economy. And by 'mixing a little truth' with their lies, they make them seem impossible to contradict by any sane individual.<br />But you know what? This isn't a new thing. It has been around for years. In fact, if you look back to Jesus, He warned his disciples about it. We see throughout the old testament that Israel or the church in the wilderness was always a target for unbelievers to attack, why should we, as the new Israel and the church of Christ, be surprised when we are attacked in the same ways?!<br /><br />But whether we are facing the horrific lies and half-truths of a prominent feminist author, being looked down at by those who wish to 'stimulate' the economy by encouraging less children, or being actually attacked in the streets by the people who's minds are dark and infected with the lies of others, we don't have to be afraid. In fact, take a good look at Matthew 5:11-12.<br />“<span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">Blessed are you when they revile and persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for My sake. Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">is</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> your reward in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you</span>."<br />Because our King WILL win, even the persecution and 'reviling' of the children of darkness go to His glory and, in the end, our BLESSING! Now this is not to say that we should pray that we would be persecuted, in fact we should pray against it and for the conviction and salvation of those who 'revile and persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely'. But when we ARE persecuted and lied about, we can be peaceful and joyful because we know that God will "<span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">Wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away</span>.” (Revelation 21:4b)<br />In Genesis 50:20, Joseph says this to his brothers who truly did persecute him.<br />"<span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">But as for you, you meant evil against me; </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">but</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">it is</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> this day, to save many people alive</span>."<br />We don't know <span style="font-style: italic;">what</span> God's plan is, or <span style="font-style: italic;">how</span> He is going to bring about good out of all of the evil, but we know that He <span style="font-style: italic;">IS</span> going to.<br />I'm going to end with Psalm 56. I want you to read each verse, not just skim over it.<br /><br /> "<span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">Be merciful to me, O God, for man would swallow me up;</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> Fighting all day he oppresses me.</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> My enemies would hound </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">me</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> all day,</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> For </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">there are</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> many who fight against me, O Most High. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> Whenever I am afraid,</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> I will trust in You.</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> In God (I will praise His word),</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> In God I have put my trust; </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> I will not fear. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> What can flesh do to me? </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> All day they twist my words;</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> All their thoughts </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">are</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> against me for evil.</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> They gather together,</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> They hide, they mark my steps, </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> When they lie in wait for my life.</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> Shall they escape by iniquity?</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> In anger cast down the peoples, O God! </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> You number my wanderings;</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> Put my tears into Your bottle; </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">Are they</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> not in Your book?</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> When I cry out </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">to You,</i><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> Then my enemies will turn back; </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> This I know, because God </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">is</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> for me.</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> In God (I will praise </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">His</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> word),</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> In the LORD (I will praise </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">His</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> word),</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> In God I have put my trust;</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> I will not be afraid. </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> What can man do to me? </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> Vows </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">made</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> to You </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">are binding</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> upon me, O God;</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> I will render praises to You,</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> For You have delivered my soul from death.</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">Have You</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> not </span><i style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);">kept</i><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> my feet from falling, </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> That I may walk before God </span><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 0, 0);"> In the light of the living?</span>"Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-21236451532881040112009-03-19T11:33:00.005-04:002009-03-19T13:43:52.104-04:00Questions About Crushes, Attention, and Other Stuff!Today I have decided to take some time and answer some questions that I have been getting. I apologize for taking so long to respond... you can read about our trip to CA on my <a href="http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/Liveforeternity">www.homeschoolblogger.com/Liveforeternity</a> blog.<br /><br />Alrighty, here is the first comment that I'm going to reply to (I've edited it somewhat so that it only contains what I'm going to respond to). The comments will be in red, and my replies in blue.<br /><br />"<span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">I've always told myself I wouldn't date until I was at least 17, my parents had no influence on it whatsoever, that's just the peg I put in place for myself. I don't necessarily think I will marry the first person I date (although my sister is happily married to her boyfriend from her senior year in high school) so it's not like once I'm 17 I think I'm going to be seriously dating...</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">but leading up to, I have a very good friend that we have talked about dating when I'm ready, not in a "I'm so in love with you!" way, but we both have feelings and have been friends for a while. We hang out occasionally, but if we're the only ones, it's somewhere public or at my house where my parents are there to supervise.</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">Is this not of God because I'm not of a 'marrying age'? I've been trying not to think about him as much, because I know it can be a distraction from God, but if I have the intent of doing what God wants me to do, and doesn't get physical or anything... is it wrong to have a crush on this boy?</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">Oh, and I forgot to add, I will be 17 in about half a year</span>."<br /><br /><style></style><div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Hello! You have asked some very good questions! I am going to do my best to answer them, but first of all, here are some questions that I want you to pray and study about.</div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> 1. What do you think is the purpose of dating? Is it to find a spouse or is it more 'recreational' (since you don't expect to marry the first person you date)?</div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> </div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> 2. Is this friend a godly young man according to scripture?</div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> </div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">3. What is the 'marrying age' according to you?</div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> </div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">4. Is the expectation of someday dating him clouding your judgement of his character? What do your parents (more importantly your father) think of this young man?</div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> </div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> Ok, that was your homework (and I'm going to give you some more in a minute). ;-) Now I'm going to try to answer your questions. </div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> So, you have a very good friend that is a young man, and you have talked about dating when you are ready. Your question is "is this not of God because I'm not of a 'marrying age'?" Well, obviously I can not tell you what God's plan is for your life, but let's think about it for a moment ok? You are 16, and you are not planning on beginning to look for a life partner until you are at least 17. I don't think that it is wrong for you to have a crush on this young man, in fact I think it is perfectly normal and I would be surprised if you did not have a crush on a young man who is willing to pay attention to you. In this situation, I would say that you should stop trying NOT to think about him. Instead, I want you to go through Scripture (or even just Proverbs) and come up with a list of, say, 20 characteristics of a godly man (doing a word study on 'righteous' is a good place to start in Proverbs). Then, when you have the list, I want you to think objectively about this young man and evaluate him according to your list. </div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> This is a good way to deal with any crush you might have. If he is a godly young man according to Scripture, than you may want to consider dating/courting when you are old enough. If not, than you can save yourself a big heart ache by recognizing the fact now instead of later.</div> <div><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"> I hope that helped, if you have any more questions, or if you want me to clarify something let me know.</span> :-)<br /><br />Ok, the next question is one that a lot of us have struggled with in the past (or still do struggle with).<br /><br />"<span style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0);">Dear Joy,</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0);">How can I stop thinking about making myself sexually attractive for boys? I HATE these thoughts!</span><br /><span style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0);">and about doing stuff to get his attention?</span>"<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);">Dear friend,<br />I believe that at some point every young lady struggles with this, so know that you are not alone. The way you are feeling is normal, and can be used to God's glory someday when you are married.<br />However, I know that living with these thoughts and desires can be really miserable and unhealthy. Before I give you some ideas of what you can do, I want to explain something to you.<br />When someone learns something new, let's say how to play an instrument, their brain actually develops new 'pathways'. The more they concentrate on playing or thinking about this specific instrument, the more defined and easy to travel these 'pathways' become. If they were to stop playing the instrument and move on to something different, the pathway would become smaller and harder for your mind to find. That is why when I take a break from playing the piano, I cannot sit down after a year and play just as well as I used to be able to.<br />Right now, your brain has a very wide and easy to travel pathway about being sexually attractive and getting attention, so that your mind will automatically go down that road when you are not specifically thinking of something else.<br />This means that you have trained your mind (not purposely, but it is trained nevertheless) to think along these lines, and to always be open to an opportunity to be more attractive or get attention.<br />What you need to do now is to re-train your mind. Your goal should be to make a different pathway the one that your mind goes down automatically, and make the 'attractive/attention' pathway smaller and harder to access.<br />Ok, now that I have explained that, I am going to give you a couple of ideas on how to do that.<br /><br />1. Cut out things that make you feel especially 'sexy'. Start noticing what makes you feel this way. You might be surprised by what you notice. It could be anything from movies and music to clothes, makeup, and hair-styles. When you notice something, just take a break from it for a while.<br /><br />2. Start reading your Bible more often, and training your mind to see things through your 'Bible pathways' instead of through your 'sexy pathways'. I like to read at least one chapter in the morning before I start my day, and at night right before bed. That way it helps me carry it through my day.<br /><br />3. Listen to some Bible songs (Hide 'Em In Your Heart songs are a really good choice). Then, instead of finding yourself humming a song that is really not helpful to your mental purity, you will find yourself singing "I have hidden Your word in my heart, that I might not sin against You."<br /><br />4. When you find yourself thinking of how to get someone's attention, or how to be more attractive to him, pray. Picture your mind as an airport, and the thoughts as airplanes trying to land. When one comes that you don't want in your mind, send it off. For the first week (or probably month) you will probably have to do this over 100 times a day, but it does get easier and less frequent when you practice.<br /><br />5. Don't be too freaked out about it. When you start getting frantic and saying "I'm not going to think about this! I'm NOT going to think about this!", guess what your mind will start thinking about?!<br /><br />6. Sometimes talking to someone, like your mom or another woman that you can trust to give you godly advice, can really help even though it will be embarrassing and hard at first.<br /><br />And last of all, don't punish yourself when you do mess up or something. Jesus died to set you free. He has already taken the punishment for sin, and He has broken the bondage to sin that you were in.<br />I hope this helped you, if you need me to clarify anything or if you have any more questions please don't hesitate to ask! :-)<br /></span><br />Ok, I think that's about all for now. As always, if you have any thoughts that you'd like to share, just leave a comment! :-) (And don't forget to vote on the new poll!)<br /></div>Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4460554143546291038.post-30722139531234185952009-01-12T14:15:00.000-05:002009-01-12T14:09:04.492-05:00PTGW Part Five: Learn to be a Friend<span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">To Mr. D Hamlin: Thank you for your comment. My father would be very happy to help if he can. Please e-mail him at nhpatterson (at) charter (dot) net.<br />Thanks! :-)</span><br /><br />Everyone wants to have at least one friend that truly understands and loves them, don't they? But, for the most part, friends don't last forever. You may always like each other, but eventually you will get to a point when you actually have to 'catch up' with each other. That is why, in addition to having friends, you should invest in the friendships that you have in your family. And why you should marry someone who is a friend and knows how to be a friend. (And of course, you will want to be a friend to who ever you marry, hence the reason for this post.)<br />Simply interacting with people does not make you a friend. I have many acquaintances, but only a few friends.<br /><div style="text-align: left;"> Proverbs 18:24 says this, "A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother."<br /></div> Obviously, Jesus is the ultimate example of a Friend. Let's look at some scripture verses about friends and relationships.<br />If we can put even one of these verses into practice we will be able to be a Godly friend.<br /><br />1. Of course, one of my favorite verses is Matthew 22:36-40 “ 'Teacher, which <i>is</i> the great commandment in the law?' ” Jesus said to him, “ ‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ <span id="en-NKJV-23905" class="sup"></span>This is the first and great commandment.<span id="en-NKJV-23906" class="sup"></span> And the second is<i></i> like it: <i> ‘</i>You shall love your neighbor as yourself<i>.’</i><sup></sup><span id="en-NKJV-23907" class="sup"></span> On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.” Have you ever noticed how we can be so polite and kind to strangers, but so rude and nasty to our family and loved ones? If we just put this one thing, "love your neighbor as yourself", into practice we will be able to be a good friend.<br />Something that I would like to point out is that the first commandment Jesus mentions is "love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind". If our life is not centered on pleasing God, and if our friendships are not based on Jesus Christ, than we are going to fail in our attempts to be a friend.<br /><br />2. John 15:12-14 says, "This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. <span id="en-NKJV-26707" class="sup"></span>Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. <span id="en-NKJV-26708" class="sup"></span>You are My friends if you do whatever I command you."<br />Jesus has commanded us to love one another as He loved us. While I may be willing to die for my friends, am I willing to lay down my selfish desires? Am I willing to give up my way? Will I stop in the middle of a project to change a diaper or feed my family?<br /><br />3. In Psalm 15, David asks the question "LORD, who may abide in Your tabernacle? Who may dwell in Your holy hill?" Do you know what one of the answers was? "He who does not backbite with his tongue, Nor does evil to his neighbor, Nor does he take up a reproach against his friend."<br />Backbiting, or gossiping, is a sin. Did you know that? "Nor does he take up a reproach against his friend." In other words, don't take offense. We need to remember to be "swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;<span id="en-NKJV-30281" class="sup"></span> for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God" (James 1:19a-20). Because friends, family members, and strangers, are all going to hurt us sometimes. If we take a moment and calm ourselves before we say anything, it will make a huge difference in our relationships.<br /><br />4. Philippians 2:14-15 says this, "Do all things without complaining and disputing,<span id="en-NKJV-29401" class="sup"></span> that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world".<br />If we can stop ourselves from saying all of the bad things that we can think of, or even stop that little sigh when Mom asks us to wash some dishes, it will help us to be "blameless and harmless, children of God".<br /><br />5. 1 Thessalonians 5:11a tells us, "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up". No one wants to be friends with someone who is always being discouraging or complaining, but simply not complaining isn't enough. We need to ENCOURAGE one another!<br /><br />6. Pray for your friends. If you see something in their life that is not honoring to God, pray about it. When you get married someday, your husband will not want you to be coming to him all the time with a righteous look on your face saying "Darling, I really don't think that it is honoring to God that you watch sports on Sunday night". No. Change yourself first. And pray that God would show your husband (or father, it's good practice for the day you do have a husband) if it truly is sinful to watch TV on the Lord's Day, because you might be mistaken.<br />Of course, if he was doing something that was really sinful, like murdering people, you would have to call the police and turn him in.<br /><br />7. Do not expect your friends to fulfill your needs. Even when you are in a marriage relationship you will sometimes feel lonely. It is important that you not become dependent on a person for your spiritual and emotional needs. If you do, you will become disappointed and bitter.<br /><br />8. Reading your Bible every day will help you to keep your whole life and all of your relationships pleasing to God (You don't have to get up at 5:00 AM to read your Bible, and it doesn't have to be for an hour, do what you can and you will find that even a little bit can bless you and the people around you).<br /><br /><br />Now, none of the things that I have mentioned can be done in your own strength. You need to pray that God would work them in you, and maybe ask your parents or prayer partner to pray for you as well. But that doesn't mean that you should not work at it, pray for God's help and then try but don't get discouraged when you fail, just try again.<br /><br />I would suggest going over the verses I have mentioned and reading them in context, or looking up verses that apply to relationships yourself. (I love to read through the Bible from Genesis to Revelation... there is such a wealth of wisdom in <span style="font-style: italic;">every</span> book about relationships.)And when you have read what the Bible says about relationships, I challenge you to do make a list of the qualities that a godly friend would have. Then set out to become that friend. (This can help you to put the principles into practice.)<br /><br />Miss Amanda writes a column for <a href="http://www.growingingraceonline.com/">Growing in Grace Magazine</a> about Friends... make sure to check it out.Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072562697674892424noreply@blogger.com10